I just saw this movie for the first time. And the part towards the end where Rob tells Laura why men cheat, because they chase a fantasy with a girl who brings no problems to the table, that relationships are problem-free in his fantasies, struck a strong nerve with me. Moved me to tears. I could never understand the rationale behind it. If you don't remember this scene, give the movie one more shot and ponder his lines!
If that film moved you to tears I would recommend that you read Nick Hornby's novel. The version of the monologue in the book is much better,
shareThanks for the recommendation! I'll definitely do that:)
shareI agree. Read the book. How often to we hear that? But it is definitely a good read.
shareThat scene is truly amazing and memorable. I remember that a few years after I had watched this movie several times, my daughter came home from high school with an assignment from her English or Drama teacher which involved her and a boy memorizing and performing this scene in front of their class. At first I was disconcerted because I wasn't sure it was appropriate for teens, but she very much understood it and the class loved it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnkrIObJqpk
I'm female and I am the same way. I like the beginning, fake part of the relationship. The fantasy, everything's cool and like a movie. The real stuff is boring.
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Love means never having to say you're ugly. - The Abominable Dr. Phibes
I thought the dialogue was great for the movie. Most RomCOMs are vapid in their approach to portraying relationships and are often cliched in their pandering to both men and women. I have to say though speaking as a man that women are guilty of the same thing Rob is explaining to Laura, and I'm not saying it's only with women like Charli either, all women.
shareIt reminds me of the Seinfeld approach to relationships. Seinfeld is always rejecting women for truly trivial reasons. No one ever grows up in Seinfeld. Rob's character is stuck in that immature mode of expecting the perfect mate. Every new relationship allows him to reboot the fantasy, but after a few months everyone's flawed humanity surfaces. Rob finally grows up and discovers the nature of his own shortcomings. Love runs deeper once you arrive at the place where you are no longer pursuing the fantasy of relationship perfection.
shareThe great thing with Rob's story is that it uses his passion for music as a fulcrum in defining his modus operandi as a human being. Just like any other hobby or passion we have in life we sometimes let that passion define us as a person. In Rob's case, he utilizes his music as an inspiration but he also uses it as a reflection on his own life. The repetition of those songs probably played a huge part in him recognizing that his own repetition with women was getting him nowhere.
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