Mary ending up with Ted.
How many women would overlook stalking?
To be fair, she realized the spy he sent betrayed him.
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How many women would overlook stalking?
Why is this gender specific? I had a couple of girls I knew in high school track me down, the second after I was married 10 years. share
I had a couple of girls I knew in high school track me down, the second after I was married 10 years.
I wish that would happen to me since I have never had a girlfriend and every girl I ever ask out says no. share
Women secretly liked being stalked.
There was a really compelling article I read years ago that addressed this as some perverse wish-fulfillment in many women and that they felt a better sense of self-worth knowing that they had a lurker.
Whoever wrote that article you read needed a swift kick up their corn hole! Stalking is not some wish fulfillment nor did it give self worth. It was annoying, scary and stressful! I had an ex-boyfriend stalk me for over 10 years. Not fun!!
shareWhen Ted agreed to it, Healey was only supposed to track down her address/number (which Ted would have done himself anyway had her number been unlisted), maybe verify that she wasn't married, and that would have been it. While it's not something to be condoned and still a huge invasion of privacy, I don't know that it comes under the category of stalking.
Far more stalkerish than hiring Healey, though, was actually going down to Miami and pretending to have just happened upon her outside her workplace. Given that he'd identified her by legit means (his friend Bob), if he'd just called her office, used his again legit appointment with Bob as an "in" and maybe said he was planning to come to Miami on vacation or whatever and would she be interested in meeting up, that would have been a lot more honest.
In fact, it's a bit of an unresolved issue for me that Mary never gets a better explanation as to why Ted's in Miami, doesn't ask who this "friend" is that he's travelled down with, and what Ted's long term plan was - wouldn't Mary find it weird that he's staying in Miami for an extended time when he has a job and a life back in Rhode Island??