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This film is so 2000

posted 10 years ago by onpegasus
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Something about this film kept bothering me: Why wouldn't the Minnie Driver character tell people that she had heart transplant surgery?

And especially, why wouldn't she tell the David Duchovny character?

I mean, what is the big deal? It seems to be a flimsy premise that drags the film out.

But then I realize that the film was made in the pre-facebook, pre-twitter age.

Back then, people didn't puke up all of their personal information to total strangers like they do now.

[–] greenjerusha 10 years ago

Sorry, had to comment even though this is a little late.

My friend had open heart surgery as a baby. Because of that she has a pretty big scar on her chest like Grace. I can tell you one thing, she is so self-conscious about to the point where I don't think I have ever seen her scar I might have once on accident. I remember her telling me a couple years ago that she wouldn't even have sex w her boyfriend of like 2-3 years without a shirt on and it took her a while to open up to him about it.

She wasn't my friend when this movie came out but watching it again and then seeing your post reminded me that it is a huge deal to some people they think no one is going to accept them.

[–] stacy0912 10 years ago

Someone else had to die for her to live and she had a hard time accepting that. She's not embarrassed, just felt guilty.

~Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable~

[–] Pippy-4 10 years ago

She didn't want to tell David's character because she had his wife's heart and she was afraid hit would freak him out.

[–] geode 9 years ago

She didn't want to tell David's character because she had his wife's heart and she was afraid hit would freak him out.

But she didn't want to tell him long before she learned she had his ex-wife's heart.

Oh Lord, you gave them eyes but they cannot see...

[–] Pippy-4 9 years ago

Yes, because she was embarrassed by the scar it left on her chest. But when she found out who the donor was she knew it would make things strange between them

[–] intelligentsupermodel 9 years ago

But then I realize that the film was made in the pre-facebook, pre-twitter age.

Back then, people didn't puke up all of their personal information to total strangers like they do now.

Yes, times have really changed, haven't they? You log onto facebook and you know everything about everyone--even people you haven't spoken to in years.

Greenjerusha, that's very interesting about your friend not telling people. Perhaps Grace's behavior isn't as uncommon as we thought.

I, too, have wondered what the big deal was. Grace stated in the movie that she didn't want people to treat her differently (remember she said the priest she went out with wouldn't allow her to lift the mashed potatoes after he found out). I think she also didn't want anybody to feel sorry for her, because she had nothing but appreciation for being alive.

[–] Val-El 9 years ago

So 2000???

So what would you say about The Ten Commandments???

So so pre historic?????!?!?!? Sheesh - lighten up...

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[–] onpegasus 9 years ago

So what would you say about The Ten Commandments???

I would say that you did not read beyond the title of the thread, otherwise you might not have asked such an irrelevant question.

If I was going to humor you, I would say that The Ten Commandments is "so 1956," because the film does a better job of depicting the United States during the 1950s than it does of giving a true picture of life in the Middle East in the 1st Century AD.

Oh, and by the way . . . biblical times were recorded in history, so they are not
"prehistoric."

I see that you have been drinking beer, which explains a lot about your post.

[–] Val-El 9 years ago

FYI - people who "puke" all their info on those stupid personal sites will pay for the errors throughout their lives.

People who have life and death surgeries are noticeably skittish about their bodies and their mental insecurities. You should empathize with those who have lived through such a devastating surgery (someone had to die).

My state "pre historic" was facetious - you do get the implication, I hope.

Occasionally beer - much more often wine.

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[–] jackg11228 9 years ago

Not just the scar, but isn't it possible she feared being classified imperfect or abnormal. Let's face it, when seeking a mate, male or female, most people have a checklist, conscious or subconscious, of what they seek, and what scares them off.