Explicit sex scenes


Hi...

I posted this message in sequence to another thread, but I figured it deserves its own.
In reply to a message on "Favorite scene?" thread:

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I actually have the same kind of curiosity.
How exactly is the so famed initial anal sex scene?
- is it explicit?
- are they body doubles?
- I read (here on IMDB) that Tony Leung Chiu Wai didn't know he was supposed to do a gay sex scene. Where does this information come from? And can't this actually be considered immoral (to drag someone to a film, and due to some artistic motivation be forced to do such a scene)?

Now that I've placed my questions, I must ensure that I'm not a conservative kind. Definitly not right wing! But still this issue of explicitness of sex in films is a controversy to me... And I'm not just talking about gay scenes like in this film, but straigh sex (like in "Lucia y el Sexo" or "Idioterne", which are, by the way, among my favorite). On one hand I understand there can be an especific purpose to it, but on the other, in most cases I've seen the explicit penetration were not necessary since everything else we're seeing is disturbing enough or serves the purpose. In the end, to me, it only reflects the arrogance of the directors (he knows we, the audience, are vulnerable to he's whishes).

The other issue is when the actors accept to do these explicit scenes. On "Lucia y el Sexo" and "Idioterne" I know they were body doubles. (but I was impatiant to know this ever since I've finished seeing the films). Some may suggest that it's nonesense to think that actors would do that in a film, and that doubles (porn actors) are used. But I've read (also here on IMDB) that there's an actress (european, if I recall correctly), that has perfomed an explicit blowjob.

Some may find this a conservative standpoint, but let me argue:
First, I believe anyone should do what they want. I'm not against porn, on the contrary! I actually applaude porn for being honest. It is what it is, and it serves it's purpose!
Now, other films and actors use a double standard. It's porn in a porn film, but art in an art film.
Furthermore, you can just ask yourselves why does a couple break up (not always, I understand) when one of them has sex with someone else? And more than that, what do you think is going through his (or her) mind? Especially if the other one is caught in the act! It becomes revolting!
The point is that in a film the actress (or actor) would be doing something which we imediatly interpret in that specific way. We almost always tend to understand and put ourselves in a character's shoes, a natural behavior. I believe that's not too far from trying to understand the actors. So in a way they become people "close" to us. And what would you think if your girlfriend, boyfriend or just friend would just have sex with someone in front of you and a room full of people?
By now you must be thinking I'm contradicting myself, because I said that I don't mind porn. The difference is exactly in the fact that because porn is so honest in that sence, it become much more bearable. Whereas in a "normal" film, hiding it under artistic motivation only makes it more sadistic. Just as one would feel if a girlfriend (or boyfriend) would say to you, after having sex with someone else: "It was just sex, it didn't mean anything" DOES IT MATTER? (by the way, I never understood people who say that as an attempt to smoothen things!) I think this applies to non conservatives as well!!! Don't think most non conservatives would reply: "Ok honey, we're a progressive couple! Was it good for you???"

Well, don't know if I explained myself. Hope it was clear. I respect anyone who would not agree with me, so I'm open to comments.

Anyways, this is way too long a post, so I also hope I haven't bored or annoyed anyone.

Thanks for reading!

Peace
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From what I remember, the sex scene isn't explicit. It's faked, like in most films. But still it's pretty steemy, they kiss and rub a lot. ;)

Wong kar-Wai, the director, never uses screenplays, and the actors are aware of that. They choose to play the game. And Tony didn't feel like he was trraped or something, at least he wasn't mad afterwards, because since then he made two more films with Kar-Wai (playing straight characters, by the way).

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Hi
Let me simply answer to your questions first.

- is it explicit?

I don't think so. At least their bottoms are not shown when they have intercourse if that's what you mean by "explicit". From reading your post, I guess you're thinking something very very explicit like porn. It's nothing like that. The scene is not longer than a minute, but yet it is very powerful.
I personally suggest that you see this film and judge for yourself whether or not it is "explicit".

- are they body doubles?

No.

- I read (here on IMDB) that Tony Leung Chiu Wai didn't know he was supposed to do a gay sex scene. Where does this information come from?

Tony says that in some interviews. WKW also admits it, he says he didn't "lie" to Tony though. Since he never uses a script and often changes the story, he just gave him the idea he had had at that time.

And can't this actually be considered immoral (to drag someone to a film, and due to some artistic motivation be forced to do such a scene)?

I think it all depends on the director/actor relationship. WKW and Tony have been working together for quite a long time and I guess WKW was confident that Tony would do it once he's understood the whole point of the film which he did. You may then say WKW could have told Tony the real story prior to the shooting, but that's how he works, as I wrote above, no script. I also read somewhere that WKW thought that Tony was too used to his films/way of shooting, so he wanted to surprise and shock him and see what it would bring out of him. More importantly Tony could have walked out if he didnft want to, but he didn't. Why? The answer is in the film.

I agree with you that some sex scenes are not particularly necessary to be explicit and I even find them not necessary at all sometimes. Concerning the scene in Happy Together though I think it has its own purpose. Firstly, it simply shows you at the very begginning of the film that they are a gay couple. Secondly, ahem, well I'm not good at this kind of topic, but I think the "position" of the two somehow gives you the idea of their (gay) relationship? Like one has more control over the other? I don't know. Whatever the purpose is (it's all a matter of how you look at it), WKW never seems to be working in an arrogant way. He knows what the film needs and doesn't need.

Another point you made sounds interesting as well. There's still something I don't quite understand though.

We almost always tend to understand and put ourselves in a character's shoes, a natural behavior. I believe that's not too far from trying to understand the actors. So in a way they become people "close" to us. And what would you think if your girlfriend, boyfriend or just friend would just have sex with someone in front of you and a room full of people?

What do you mean by "the actors" here? The ones having sex for real in a film? Whatever you mean, isn't it a leap of logic? Or maybe it's a syllogism. I understand that the actors in a film sometimes become close to us and there are also some films that I can relate myself to. However they are actually someone you don't know, in fact they are merely the actors doing their job after all. Having said that, I don't care what they do in a film. But your boy/girlfriend or just friend having sex in front of you is another story. They are not doing it in a film and it's not fake.


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Hi...

Thanks for your answers. They are helpful.
I also like the lucid way in which you write, unlike some that come by this place.

About my position regarding sex in film, I'm only bothered by explicitness (meaning actual visually recognizable penetration, be it gay or straight), in the sense that I can't put myself in such an actor's place. But, just like you, I am liberal in the sense that anyone does what they want. And I also try hard to respect their choices, though I can't avoid some prejudice society puts on us (after all, the role of sex has potential to create harmony aswell as hate). For instance, should I ever get married, I find it quite difficult to predict I could marry an actress that did something like that.

I also have to confess I might have a duality in feelings. Not just because I can accept that one such scene could have a provocative purpose. But also because if there was a film I loved so much, I would not let that scene interfere with my feelings for the film. Furthermore, I've tried to put myself in a director's shoes (I aspire to make films sometime in the future), and in several ideas I come up with, there's an impulse to do the same. Of course, as I analyse myself and the process in which I "create" I realize I'm falling in that same arrogance, since I'm pleasing myself regardless of the "audience".

About that idea of relating to the actors: what I meant was that I can't always disconnect my though from reality (meaning to let myself go by the fantasy the film provides). So as I acknowledge the characters and plot/story, I also try to be aware of the process of filmmaking it. In that sense, you're in much contact with the actors aswell as the characters. True the actors are acting, so we don't see them as they are, but we know it's an actor acting the character. Unlike books, in which characters are in our minds, these characters have physical presence through the actors. So, I sometimes can't help wonder about an actor's choice to do certain things for the character. When it comes to sex (explicit penetration), the issue of faking is equivalent to that of a girlfriend in the situation I have described. This is because you can't be sure of something that's on a person's mind (the mind is inpenetrable). If it's real sex, there is highly likely pleasure... and this is in fact disturbing.

Peace.

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The sex is not explicit. It is faked.

Explicit sex is when you show the act itself. The "in and out", so to speak.

Tony Leung is straight, as far as I know.

(Leslie Cheung was gay)

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He was very adimate that he was bi-sexual and not "gay". Just wanted to clear that up. In Canada he came out of the closet as bi and not gay because he had had several girlfriends and had propsed to one of his female coworkers at one time.

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It was safer to say you were "bi" than it was to say you were Gay becuase it wasn't deemed as morally reprehensible by some people. Hell - Boy George claimed he was "bi" when he was interviewed in the '80s. He certainly does not have any interest in women. But it was safter to say "bi" than admit to being gay.

Leslie Cheung was gay, had a long time relationship with a man, and even in Christopher Doyle's shooting diary said to Tony Leung "now you know how I feel pretending all those years that I wanted to stick my thing in that extra hole that women have."



Tony Leung apparently was a little shook up after they shot the main sex scene because Kar-Wai had originally told him it would be kissing only. However - I doubt he was coersed into doing it and his comments about being upset about it were more joking and "Look at what this director gets me into" than anything else.

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I'll answer this part of your entry:

"But I've read (also here on IMDB) that there's an actress (european, if I recall correctly), that has perfomed an explicit blowjob."

Yes, it was Maruschka Detmers, a Dutch actress in the Italian film, "Il Diavolo in Corpo," or, "Devil in the Flesh." It may have hurt her career greatly as all any interviewer wanted to talk about with her was the oral sex she gave in that film."

There is explicit sex throughout the Japanese film, "In the Realm of the Senses."

And funny enough, since we're on Tony Leung, there was a big stir (no pun intended) over whether there was actual penetration with an 18 year old Jane March in "The Lover." Check out the IMDB for that film.

Then there is the very questionable film, "Caligula" which starred big name actors like Malcolm McDowell, John Gielgud, and Peter O'Toole. There was lots of explicit sex including some money shots.

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The Tony Leung in The Lover is a different person. The one in the Lover is Tony Leung Gai Fai, and here is Tony Leung Chiu Wai.

When i first was this movie, the scene, without any premitive warning, was a little shocking, not because of the act, but the passion. I can definitely say that anything else happening in the movie is no longer a shock. I believe among other things, this scene acts as a desensitization of gay relationship so the viewer can stop thinking that these are two guys, and get on with seeing them as a couple and as lovers.

It is masochistic to love a movie that hurts this much to watch, but I love it nonetheless!

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'When i first was this movie, the scene, without any premitive warning, was a little shocking, not because of the act, but the passion.'

Oh no, that's even worst! I'm awful at taking at taking on sexual tension. I don't mind if there's just the 'act' and nothing else (I would be disappointed though) but I just know that I'm gonna turn into a giggling wreck.

I've been mislead by the review I read; I got the impression that it relies on sexual tension and small gestures rather than any sex stuff.

Oh well, it's probaly still good.

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i think caligula was just symptomatic of the new liberation of being able to show nudity in films. since then its become something less taboo, sadly resulting in less gratuitous nudity :)

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But I've read (also here on IMDB) that there's an actress (european, if I recall correctly), that has perfomed an explicit blowjob.


Chloe Sevigny gave an on-screen blowjob to Vince Gallo in the movie The Brown Bunny.

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"in most cases I've seen the explicit penetration were not necessary since everything else we're seeing is disturbing enough or serves the purpose.In the end, to me, it only reflects the arrogance of the directors (he knows we, the audience, are vulnerable to he's whishes)."
...perhaps to some these scenes are not disturbing. Don't you think it is important to ask yourself why such scenes are automatically so "disturbing" and taboo(dicks get nc17 in the us, vag's don't), esp when violence and maming almost never get that nc-17. What's so bad about bodies and sex(definitely a fr. new wave attitude)? What about the context that this is a chinese flick(ok not mainland, but...) Was it not NECESSARY over there? Also what kind of arrogance is it to think that you are going to marry one of these actresses someday(just kidding).

Not necessary? Personally when I fall in love with a character(s)(say in a movie) I want to know every detail, even the sordids, and am grateful when a director includes something that is say taboo(esp the risk he took in china with this scene). You say how sex is porn in porn, art in art. But why can't one bleed into the other?(artsy porn, or pornsy art?) And what does it matter?

Also noone mentions how beautiful this scene was(lighting, room, intensity, bodies, rawness). The most 'disturbing' thing about is that it took place in a dying love. Consider the source! Watch the movie! And then if you are not convinced, watch In The Mood For Love(possibly the antithesis to Happy Together), which is WKW way more restrained and considers the characters privacy in necessary way.

(man how did you make it thru Sex and Lucia?;)

any way I'd be intrigued by your response if you r still checking this thread

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Hi...

I haven't been following this or any other threads.
I just remembered I had posted some time ago and was curious about possible replies. And quite coincidently, as you mention "In the Mood for Love", I have just bought the DVD... :-)

I must say, the first posts I made regarding these issues were too violent for what I really am. I wrote it a bit in a heat of a nervous moment. This post, was much lighter, as I seemed to have calmed down a bit. Still my opinion didn't diverge too much. But now, as I have been writting it all down here, and as time as passed (not too much time, but just enough), my ideas are inevitably clearer.

Regardless of how I presented my criticism, one thing was always true: my respect for these directors.
I like movies, and this is why I am pationate in my comments, sometimes.

About Lucia y el Sexo, I see my comments have projected an image of a conservative right wing, when in fact I am left wing... In the end, I just needed to find justification for some scenes. I guess this must be from the excess of sex in media. At some point, it saturates, and you just have to ask if it's necessary...

Lucia y el Sexo, and many others that fit in this discussion are beautiful films that I want for my personal collection, I must establish this as a fact, clear any doubts about this...

Bottom line, I am quite confortable with sexual explicit scenes. It just happens, sometimes I have an anxiety for purpose/reason, and I sometimes I don't seem to find.

About the arrogance argument I used before, though it may not be true or not considered in the cases of the directors I mentioned, arrogance is, in fact, something that can be put to screen. You can't be a simple passive viewer, glorifying these artists, and giving them immunity, just because they are geniouses.

About my arrogance regarding marrying an actrees, this was hypothetical, as much as you would fall in love with a character. I guess my point was that we get inevitably close to actors, because we relate to the characters in quite an intimate way (we exercise a bit of voyeurism here).

I guess I covered all questions...
Hopefully I'll keep up with the thread more often.

Peace

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This is unrelated to the intended topic, but why are you so insecure about being seen as conservative or right wing? Sometime in your life were you made fun of for having a conservative opinion and then made it your goal for that to never happen again? Or were your parents overly conservative and this was how you chose to act out however long ago? Do you feel pressured to portray yourself as some sort of die-hard liberal? This is all very curious to me. Why do people feel the need to squeeze themselves into specific categories? You are who you are. Embrace your true feelings and opinions, however mixed they may be. Don't worry about how others see you. Live your life.. for you! :o)

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does anyone want to be seen as right-wing?

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I don't know why you get the idea of me being insecure about being seen as conservative. What was disturbing me was that there was this one day when my mind was in a specific place that made me react in a fierce way to my frustration of not understanding some choices made by Medem. And ultimately, what I don't like is to be miss-understood. I do have a personnal life, and I'm not the first to let it affect my judgment... nor am I the first to acknowledge it and apologise.

About the political issue, I am very autonomous, so I don't have that repressed atitude towards it, as you seem to imply. Left-wing and right-wing are very broad terms indeed, but we do give them meaning and representations. Some might add a few personnal things to them, but they have have cores that many would agree on. It's inevitable to place ourselves in one side or the other, at least regarding specific issues.

Wouldn't you find unconfortable to be called a murderer or robber, when you know you're not? It's almost the same... If one would tell me that I'm right wing, I'd ask them to explain why and argue against it. It's only natural to want to put the dots in the i's. If people don't want to understand me, then I don't mind...

I don't know if you read my first words about this all, but I was very harsh (is this how you write it? English is not my native language), which could naturaly be seen as ultra-conservative. In this specific case, what I wanted was to say I still don't understand many of Medem's choices, I'm just looking for an answer, and am still frustrated not to find it. Does this seem as a repressed conservative opinion to you?

Anyways, with the anonimous nature of these posts/forums, I don't see a reason to repress one's opinions. I don't think it would make sense... Don't know, I'm not a psychologist.

But I agree with you when you say one should do what one finds right not what others do. Otherwise you'd be living a lie. That's a squary thought...

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I am comfortable enough in my heterosexuality to say that I would find seeing two portrayed gay males in a movie kissing and heavy petting a big turn-off, and not something I would want to watch. I don't know if that was the motive for some people asking how sexuality explicit "Happy Together" is, but I see nothing wrong with wanting to know what to expect from a movie ahead of time. It has nothing to do with being "homophobic", but personal movie preference.

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I'm inclined to think straight men who find watching two men make out uncomfortable should get over themselves. As a gay man, I can watch and enjoy a film with lots of rampant hetero sex or lesbian sex scenes; they don't make me uncomfortable, there's (usually) much more to a film than just the sex scenes.

I do agree with you, princessxiaohe, that the kitchen dance scene (my favourite in the movie) is sweeter, sexier and more affectionate than the sex scene at the start of the movie. So often straight people think gay relationships are all about sex and are not loving, but gay relationships are just like straight ones in that there are all kinds of intimacies involved - sharing a cigarette, looking after each other when you are ill, dancing. 'Happy Together' (its release title here in NZ) was a revelation and became my favourite film ever when it screened here because it captures all of those aspects of gay relationships (and their disintegration) so well.



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Apart from any latent homophobia the viewer may bring to the issue, I think there are reasonable (value-judgment free) ways to be jarred by this scene. There's no way to say this without saying it: I'm talking about the spit-job lubrication. This is something that happens everyday in both heterosexual and homosexual sex, of course. But to see it in a proper (non-pornographic) film feels deeply transgressive.

It draws attention to the mechanics of sex in a way that demystifies; and that, I suppose, is the purpose.

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