Okay I love this movie and I love Jack and Lucy together, but as I’ve gotten older the ending has started to seem a little odd…I mean Jack PROPOSES after they’ve known each other, what, a week? And they haven’t even been on a single date. And earlier in the movie when Jack thinks Lucy and Peter got engaged after 3 months of dating, he remarks “That’s quick.” So it’s totally ironic that later he proposes after a week of knowing her. It would make a lot more sense if Jack had just asked Lucy out after finding out she wasn’t engaged. But I guess there’s probably no explanation for this other than it’s a chick flick and it’s supposed to have a romantic ending, and I guess Jack asking Lucy to dinner is not as dramatic as him proposing. And they probably also wanted it to end with Lucy not being alone anymore. But Jack could’ve asked her out and then maybe the movie could’ve skipped ahead in time to them getting married or something……still a great movie.
All the timing is, of course, artistic license. But spending time with each other doesn't have to be a date, per se. I think Jack fell in love with Lucy when they were walking back from his penned-in truck to her apartment. Talking and laughing together is way better than going on some stiff dinner date!
I'm watching it on TV right now, and while it is ironic that Jack proposes to Lucy after having known her for a week as opposed to the three months she was 'supposedly' with Peter....I think a lot of it is Jack and Lucy had a lot of quality time together and honest conversations about what kind of people they were, like when they talk about her dad, and Lucy reveals that her coat was her father's, and the dreams she and her dad shared. He got to know what Lucy held dear and important, deep down, and it matched what he holds dear, deep down. And Lucy realized this too (the next day she does her "I'm having an affair!" bit.)
It probably helped them both, in a bizarre way, that neither of them was looking to fall in love. Jack thought of Lucy as his future sister-in-law, Lucy was still 'in love' with Peter (or at least the image she had created of him in her mind). Jack and Lucy, to me, come across as being a little on the shy and guarded side, not having the pressure of a potential romantic pairing probably made it easier for both of them to be more open and honest with each other. It was after being open and honest with each other that they realized how much potential there was between the two of them.
And actually, you *really* see how well they've gotten to know each other in their 'fight' scene, where they both call the other one out on what they're doing with their lives. They each hit the other's sensitive spots dead-on, which would indicate in the short time they knew each other, they *really* developed a strong understanding of the other.
Lucy's confession at the end was also telling and touching as well...that she was lonely and with the pretence, she had gained a family that she now loved dearly, and loved her. You could see it in their faces...that while they were shocked, they were also very sad for her. I often suspect that if Ashley and her husband hadn't shown up and created a scene, Lucy might've found herself in the middle of a huge group hug.
So, yeah, a week is quick....but the movie did a pretty good job of showing Jack and Lucy's 'true selves' to each other, so what else were they going to find out by dating each other? :)
Lyndon Johnson proposed to Lady Bird the morning after he met her.
Jack Paar proposed to his wife no later than two days after they met.
Dick Francis, the British jockey turned mystery novelist, said that when he first met his wife, he told himself that she was the woman he was going to marry.
My husband (unlike LBJ, Paar and Francis, no one you ever heard of) said he wanted to propose right after our first date, but he was afraid such a quick proposal would scare me off. So he waited--a whole six weeks.
Psychologists have said that men form a mental picture of their ideal woman, so when they meet someone who fits that image, she's The One. To judge by the divorce rate, it would seem that this feeling isn't reliable and some men see what they want to see and not the real woman. And yet the Johnsons, the Paars, the Francises, and my husband and I married in haste and have NOT repented at leisure.
I still wouldn't recommend such haste to anyone else now that we know that insistence on a quick commitment is one of the classic signs of an abusive man.
My mom and step dad were married two months after meeting and it's the only marriage that has worked out for them (he's her third and she is his second). My husband and I got married three months after seeing each other for the first time since graduating high school (about five years later). I think when you know, you know.
I think you sum up what I've gathered from relationship experts, as well, where they say that when a man is ready to settle down, he subconsciously focuses his radar accordingly. If the reasonably "right" woman happens to be in front of him, that's it.
some men see what they want to see and not the real woman
Sadly I believe this happens a lot. It happened to me. Some men really do just see what they want to see and create a mythology around a person that they don't even adjust when faced with lots of the "real" them.
A man I was involved with did this to me, to an extent where I now see that he had mental problems (something I too didn't see regarding him, but instead made excuses for him all along).
He had a troubled history to begin with, and some unbalanced people distort and idealize a person they latch onto, because they're desperate to find something they think is "perfect" in a world of imperfection and trouble. NOBODY is perfect.
On the other hand, IF both parties are relatively sane, stable, and not projecting stuff onto someone, I also think people can "know" right away and it will work out and stay solid.
It's not just Hollywood rom-coms. The action in Romeo and Juliet--the lovers meet, marry, are forced apart, and die--takes place over a few days. This was not the only play in which Shakespeare depicted a romance taking place at lightning speed. Such haste was necessary to advance his plot.
I guess maybe they felt they knew, I'm just skeptical because my sister got engaged to someone really fast (10 days of knowing each other) She thought she "knew" and it ended being a really bad situation. So now I think even if you think know, it still doesn't hurt to take your time in getting to know each other. But oh well, just a movie.