I do not like that comment at all. There may be some psycho-social issues that factor into why "black babies belong with black mothers"; however, a person's race should not determine their capacity of love and attention for their child.
shareI agree with you. Babies belong to a person who is going to love and care for them. Color should not be an issue.
shareFully agreed. But thats the thinking of many people.
sharefully disagreed. black babies deserve to grow up in their own historical and cultural communities. adoption of black babies to a white family should be a last resort if no black family is available to care for them. white people have a long ugly history of robbing other communities, especially native american and blacks, of their babies and giving them to white families. it is in fact a recognized form of genocide.
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I'm african american myself and I didn't like that comment as well. As long as the person is caring for the child and providing love to that child that is all that matters.
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^^^ THIS WAS FUNNY! LOL. And it should not matter the race of the parent or child. If that's the case, it should be like that across the board. As an African American, who teaches H.S. English, should I be at an all Black school?? Should I be at an all girls' school b/c I am a woman? NO-It is silly. Parents who are not of the same race or ethnicity as their child can instill a cultural and historical identity with their child...both the tragic side and the triumphant one. As a teacher, I do this everyday and most of my students are NOT the same race or ethnicity as I.
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Well said, agree 100%
shareI agreed with the first part of your post. Black children should be placed with black families wherever possible because of the ethnic/cultural ties and support only a black parent could truly give a black child (although it also stands to reason that many mixed race children in single-parent families, such as the one Halle Berry was raised in, will not be exposed to those cultural ties, and that has nothing to do with the State or misguided white people).
However, then you went into a mean-spirited and bigoted rant about genocide. Most modern-era white couples who adopt black childrrn are not seeking to undermine black communities. All they're interested in is providing a home for a child, which is almost always preferable to a child being placed in long-term foster care regardless of whether the adopted child is the exact same race of the adults concerned. You seem to be blaming white couples for the unfortunate lack of black couples available to adopt black children in some areas which, without wishing to turn this into a black v white thing, as you seem keen to do, strikes me as wholly unfair.
i dont think that culture and history feed a babie's soul and needing of love! a baby should stay with a parents who make him happy and give love.
shareThat's dumb af, it's about love and a stable enviroment. A child can learn about their cultural background, that's just something the parents would have to work on. Saying a child shouldn't be placed with a family who provides for them in every way because they aren't the same skin color is ignorant as hell. I agree, there are certain things that a person more like you can teach you Better than a person less like you but I wouldn't want anyone to take me out of my home, take my child away from me, nor stop from placing me in a home because of it.
shareThere are several black children who were adopted by white couples who have stated that while they had stable and loving parents and environment, they still struggled with their identities. They essentially had to learn ahout their cultural and africian american community as adults because they werent exposed to that. They also couldnt definitiely say its a good idea for white couples to adopt children outside of their race. However they did say that if a couple adopts a child outside their race then they should be very cognitive and sensensitive to their upbringing. They should raise their adopted kids in a community where they are exposed to people like themselves and other cultures. That way they can relate to and dind other examples about people limw them. Thats probably Why some feel that it is best to place a black child with a black couple. Thats not to say that white couples should not r. However if they do adopt a black child they need to be very aware of the and educated on raising a black child in a world where there is prejudicism, racism and biasm. These are things that usually white people may not always be exposed aware or informed on regularly. Many complaints from adopted black kids is while adoptive parents may well intentioned. They think that they are adopting this child and give them a stable and loving home. Theyre also give them a great education. However they may not think that their child may end up being the only brown face in a place where 90 % of the people are white. That may include the clasroom and may not be intentional. Also that child will also have to deal with ignorant ideals and steretypes that people have about people who have the same color as them. Look im not saying that white coupled or any couple cannot adopt based on race. They just need to be educated and be very aware, especially if their children are minorities because of negative stereotypes and people ignorance. These are things that any couple have to deal with even if both parents are black.the thing is expose to educaye and expose them to many positive images so they wont have a negative image about themselves and do not understand tge wirkd around them.
shareThis seems to just be a black/white American issue as I haven't seen such racial cultural debates in Ireland, the UK, or many other places. Also, if people would take a DNA test, they'd find that many white people have sub-saharan African in their blood, and many black people have none, as the mix of all peoples for thousands of years have made the colors of many people. This is why I laugh at the American race debate because it's a facade and doesn't exist other than when you make it exist by fighting. You waste time with the race debate and shift focus from what really matters, the human race.
shareI think we all should mix as much as possible. All of us.
shareWe have also heard a lot "children belong with their mother". Gender too should not play a role.
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