Rex_Tex all the way!


I just read the thread on staying at home vs. dumping YOUR children with someone else.

I was APPAULED by the RUDE responses by the people who said that he was spolied and wrong.

You are naive to the extreme and clearly you either were raised in a day care or by someone other than your mother or father, or dumped your own kid onto someone else's lap while you chose to work. It's VERY obvious, because logically, you wouldn't be saying that.

If you aren't poor and can afford it [which most mom who decide to work can still afford to stay home] then the mother mustttttt stay home and raise the child. I can't stand the women who dump their children on their moms, day cares, nannys, etc. It's terrible.

That's the facts. If you reply otherwise you might as well just write "MY PARENTS DROPPED ME OFF WITH SOMEONE ELSE." or "I DUMPED MY PRIDE AND JOY WITH SOMEONE ELSE."
Don't deny it, we ALL know you did it.

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Listen. Im going to college to have a career. not babies I have dreams of both but I am not giving up my dreams to be barefoot and pregnant. its *beep* ridiculous and archaic.

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sorry, i got it all. great career, great children, great husband. got married in 1995. my husband almost died in a car accident in 2006 & that whole experience made us love eachother & our lives even more. time to get out of the 1950's. the cost of living is very expensive & both parents must work. in 1970 my father told my then 36 year old mother she didn't have to work any more. she simply replied "ok." like if he was her master. she is now 76 and sits at home all day alone & bored to the point where she is depressed. she lived her life for her children & knew nothing else. now we are all gone, raising our own families & she is at home, doing nothing. she never learned how to do something for herself.

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I really can't help myself here:


First of all, some people simply don't have the choice. I was very fortunate in having my Mom stay home with my brother and I most days out of every week for a few years in my early childhood, but I have ALSO experienced a daycare environment, and the fact that RexTex described it as "traumatic" and "painful" and: "THANK GOD, my tears "worked" and my mom decided that going back to her banking career wasn't worth the pain me and my brother were going through," is quite honestly kind of ridiculous. THAT'S why people were calling RexTex spoiled - (NOT because, in his opinion, he thinks it's better for a child to have a mother at home with them constantly), because he sounded like a whiny, spoiled kid, period. And then he just said, "Bite me," several times when people were attempting to have a serious conversation with him... And you back this guy up? Really?
Regardless, as far as the actual parenting issue goes, it certainly goes both ways and if you're too close-minded to see that then I can't help you, but I'll go ahead and give my two cents anyway...


Obviously there are plenty of selfish, horrible parents all over the place just as there are plenty of selfless, admirable parents out there. But sending your child to a day-care while you go to work doesn't say anything about you as a person unless you possess negative qualities in the first place, OR unless you don't see to it that your child is as happy, healthy, and rounded as you can possibly make them within your power. Likewise, there are plenty of great, stay-at-home-mothers and then there are PLENTY of terrible, lazy, neglectful stay-at-home-mothers. Lumping them ALL into either one category or the other and then saying one avenue is correct and the other is incorrect is mindless or, as you put it, "naive to the extreme". Not everything is so black and white.


I know plenty of great people who were in a day-care situation since they were born (if both parents need to work to make ends meet then there's not much they can do about that, is there?). I also know plenty of great people who were lucky enough to have their Mom around most of the time. On the other end of the spectrum, I know some really awful people who were taken care of by their mother during the day. And I know some awful people who were in day-care or had a nanny... so it really goes both ways. The bottom line is that a good parent will do everything within their power to create the best possible life for their child, but it really all depends on SO many things and it takes a lot of give-and-take, whether you have a lot of money or hardly any at all.


In your case, instead of looking at this issue with an open mind, you basically have the attitude that, "If you do _____ you're a bad parent. If you do _____ you're a good parent," and sorry, but I find that pretty idiotic when you don't know anyone's context but your own.

Also, the fact that you ended your post with a childish taunt: "Don't deny it, we ALL know you did it," doesn't say much for you either, no offense.


Having said all that, not only do I somewhat despise these movies (I watched them on Netflix thinking they'd be funny but I guess they're a little too cheesy/safe for my taste), but I very rarely feel the need to comment on IMDB boards. However, after reading the RexTex thread and then your post, it made me laugh and I really couldn't help myself.

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I know it's been ages since you posted this but I feel like I've got to reply. Not only to you but in general.

I live in northern Europe and almost everyone leaves their children to day care at around two years of age. It's not like our parents just dump us there for selfish reasons. They stay with us there for the first days in order for us to get secure about the enivorement and nannies as well as befriend the other children. You get to interact with other kids your age and it's only for a few hours a day. My mom would normally leave me at around 9AM and pick me up at around 2PM. Thanks to that I got to spend time with both friends at day care and my family at home.

I have fantastic memories from being at day care. I still talk to the nannies (We had three in my section of the kinder garden) and stays in touch with some of the friends I made there as a kid. Yet I still have an amazing relationship with my parents and the rest of my family.

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A mother must stay at home? Yes, because that makes for a really happy home in every situation, doesn't it?! Much as I loved the fact we could afford for me to stay at home, I was really unhappy. I felt my identity had been lost, that I had to rely on my husband for everything financial. Now I have my own business, look after our children all the time, and run the house. It's damned hard work, but our children have a happier mummy now, and they know I'm here for them whenever they need me.

I was gonna let you *beep* me, but I got my rag, and I know how you hate a mess

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