anyone remember when stalking was romantic?

You are correct. You U.S.A. people would rather sue someone...it's all about the quick, easy and unearned cash---that drives America...!

Male in the room !

It of course all starts with showing your interest. From that point of view an anonymously sent flower bouquet is a nice one. But you have to follow that one up with making yourself known and inviting the lady for a nice dinner.

It becomes stalking when the receiver makes it clear she doesn't like the attention. When you keep giving gifts, keep being around her and acting like she already is your girlfriend, then it is stalking.
When you're sneaking in her bedroom to watch her sleep that is creepy and sick and you should seek medical attention.

@stazza

Excellent post. :)

"We are the people your parents warned you about."

It's stalking due to the absurd lengths she goes to. Hiring detectives to spy, flying thousands of miles, appearing uninvited on his doorstep. You equate this to leaving roses and a note?

Well, regardless of what others felt, I never felt like it was stalking. It didn't cross my mind until I read some posts here. I've read posts and considered the various views and still don't "feel" it.

I never considered her actions as being bad in any way.

That's the problem with people today. They don't value any one person in their lives... at all, aside from maybe their children. People have been conned to believe that men pursuing women is predatory in nature. However, when a woman pursues a man, like we see in this film, it's a lot easier to stomach. Subsequently, men feel like the ultimate outcasts and women feel empowered. But, it's still robbing society of great masculine traits, like aggression and vigilance... to where everyone just sits on their hands, because it's safer.

Women stalking men always comes across as romantic. Well nearly always!

Its that man again!!

She was NOT stalking him! I wish anyone who refers to it as 'stalking' would post their age. Anyone who was alive before the internet 'stalked' people. If you saw someone you thought was 'cute' or whatever, you used whatever tools you had available. Who amongst us hasn't road a bus or train farther than their stop just to see where a certain passenger gets off. :) Of course, she works for a newspaper, so had more tools at her disposal. With Facebook, it's called 'creeping' on people. Back in the 70's, I had someone call me at home who said he saw me in my car everyday when I was going to work. He got my name by giving my license plate number to someone he knew who worked at the DMV. From there, he got my phone number. True story. Admittedly, today that would kind of freak me out. But it was a simpler time. People need to remember that.
I think a nice note (not creepy and/or inappropriate)on a windshield with an email address could still be found 'romantic/intriguing', IF the person was interested. The key to avoiding lawyers is not to pursue it any further if there is no response. No follow up note saying "I figure you must have lost my last note because you haven't replied...."
And finally, she would only have been 'stalking' him if he had told her to stay away and she continued to pursue him. Lighten up people.