racism in this movie(?)

Ok, I'm still young, and maybe I'm not understanding this correctly. But allow me to say the following:

1) I completely respect Denzel for his choice.
2) I completely understand what has happened in the past, particularly, the way people have viewed interracial relationships.
3) I understand the way this movie wanted to portray everyone, with respect.
4) I understand that the way the public may have viewed the movie if something had happened between the two of them, might have hurt the movie's box office sales.


But, I must admit, though I understand all of that, there are some things I truely do NOT understand. Such as:

1) Why did it matter to the movie makers (directors, screen-play writers, actors, etc.) what the public would do at the box office?
*don't get me wrond .. i know the point is that it wouldn't sell, therefore they would lose money..but* why didn't they make the movie from an artistic, or independent film point of view. By doing this, they would have made the movie more .. whats the word.. true. More, breath taking. It would have given everyone who walked into that theater (who had read the book involving a white man) a false sense of security. Therefore, making the movie probably go up for more awards later on.
2) Why is it, that to this day, society STILL has a problem with Black men datind White women? Whats wrong with that. Let me paint the picture for you: First, the world was not meant to be this way. Second, no one ever had to say that Black men (and women) are different from any other race. Third, why is it that people cannot let go of the past slightly. *i know, the past cannot be re-written, but why can we not let it go a little and attempt to make it all better, attempt to clear up the fogged windows to our souls?* Finally, why can't society accept that a Black man could love a (White) woman more than the ground he steps on, with more heart than he has in his chest, with more heat than 100 suns? Why? And as another note: Why do we (as people of this Earth, as the viewers of these fantastic movies/pieces of art) have to accept it?
3) And since we are here today, speaking of this very subject: Why do we have to sit here, and take it? Why ... why do we have to watch as Hollywood does nothing to clear up the mess between the races? Why ... thats my main question .. WHY?

I guess I'll stop by saying, that I accept and understand all that has been said; but don't understand why we have to live by it. I loved the movie and I love the way the film was adapted. I've always loved how a screen-writer can take a book and write it in a new way, and I would rather say interpret than write. But I don't like that the only reason they changed it, was because of the colors we could only see on a screen. I don't understand why it's such a big deal to people, its only color, and I'll never understand that. Never in a million years. Because I, myself, am a young white woman, who's working towards a career in film as well, who will tell you right now I would never judge a man by the colors I could only see. I would never judge a character (such as Mr.Washingtons) before seeing into his sould first, and I never have, and never will. Much like I'll never understand society!