Kind of disappointed

I didn't think her anger at him was out-of-place in the movie. She sacrificed her identity when she was married to him and he repaid her by cheating on her. It makes perfect sense that she finally realized her love is worth just as much as his. Her desire to keep the house is her way of telling him that she's no longer going to do everything according to his wishes.

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"The length of a film should be directly related to the endurance of the human bladder."

I agree with the above posters that Ted was portrayed as cold in teh film, and that Rose was justified in her ager toward him. It was definitely revealed in the film that Ted had been cheating on her.

But there is one substantial difference in their story from the book, and that is the ending. The book really gives no hope for a happy resolution between Ted and Rose, while the film does. I'm not sure why Tan changed this aspect of their story; perhaps she thought (or the filmmakers thought) that it would play better to Western audiences that way.

Well, I love this film and I will make my judgement on the film and not on the novel. Because while I also love the novel, they should be treated as two seperate entities.

That said, in the film, the hopeful ending seemed right in place because it was as much her fault as it was his. She could make a speech about how she sacrificed his identy for him, etc etc... but the truth of the matter is that he never asked for that and it was the reason he grew colder and more distant toward her. He was angry that she wasn't being who she is. He hated the fact that she only said what would please him; acted in a way that would please him. He wanted her to have identity. He wanted her to speak up, to fight, to disagree. But she never did, even when he confronted her about it.

So it is as much her fault. And I would even put some more blame on her if it wasn't for the fact that he turned toward another woman... which is never the solution... but I understand it at least; why he did it.

Again. I am making this statement from the film, not the novel.

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i think this story is quite different.in the movie, it seems rose has lost herself in the marriage. she threw everything to ted,let him make all the dicisions.then ted become sick of it. i think that used to be the condition for most chinese women. so the director use this plot to show how chinese women struggle in marriage. i know ROSE is not completely chinese( she grew up in US culture), but she is still affected by her chinese cultural background. that's why her mother AN MEI said rose made the same mistake as AN MEI's mother: lose oneself. so her shouting back at Ted can be considered as waking up.