Earlier in the film, he tells her, "You used to have an opinion, we used to argue!" (or something like that) He's unhappy because she's become subservient to him in their marriage, and he's grown bored with it (a good scene is when she is bending over backwards to clean up a simple spill). When she stands her ground and fights him, she turns back into who she was when they were dating - independent and strong-minded - and he finds his love for her rekindled again.
"...He's unhappy because she's become subservient to him in their marriage,.." -------
Wow! You'd think that this would be desirable! Women like that are so rare here in the USA, that some men actually seek brides from overseas, in hopes that they will be more docile than American women (who can be real b*llbusters ;}
I have a brother-in-law that married a woman who has absolutely no personality of her own. I asked her what her favorite game was and she said "Whatever Daniel's favorite game is". She hardly talks. I asked my husband if he would like me to be more like that since I boss him around a lot. He said "I'd rather you bossing me around all the time than someone who doesn't have their own brain!" I do try to find a middle ground though. I don't like bossing my husband around but I learned it from my mother. I'm working on it.
The whole thing that attracted him to her (originally) was because she was straight with him and did not just tell him what he wanted to hear, like all the other girls who were trying to talk to get with him.
Then after they got married, she lost herself and became one of those chicks he didn't like, and she didn't voice her opinions anymore and didn't fight with him, she was the submissive little wife.
Her mother told her her grandmother's story. After that it made her realize how she'd changed and then when the husband came over to discuss selling their home, he found her outside in the rain and she told him, "You get the hell out of my house!" He loved that cause he finally saw a glimpse of the girl he fell for and then he said, "Lets talk..." and they began talking... I can't recall the whole of that conversation cause its been few months since I've seen it but they must've ended up getting back together because then there happy and together at the party.
I'd like to add that I believe her mother (through the story) gave her daughter the will to dig deep down and find herself ... to find the woman she left behind. She says "I died 60 years ago" identifying with a woman that gave the ultimate sacrifice ... her grandmother. I believe she would not allow that death to be in vain and found the strength to become whole again.
Because of this, her relationship with her husband eventually worked it self out. As she said "She allowed this to happen". What a great movie!
It just seemed a bit odd how they got from A to B. It's hard to imagine what was said in that conversation that made them go from one scene to the next.
Glad they made it, though. Apparently in the book it doesn't work out.
Yes, she finally stood up for herself, and when we flipped to the present time (June's party) we saw that they worked out their problems after she stood up for herself and re-discovered her worth.
--The day I hold too tightly to my opinion is the day I stop learning. May that day never come.