Do Chinese women have a right to a voice?

I'm sorry if what I'm about to say has already been discussed in this forum a thousand times.

Please know I'm not trying to be an apologist or praiseful critic of the film/novel. Let me say as an American of Asian descent, I generally sympathize with those Asian American men who denounce the film/novel because of their repeated negative depictions of Chinese men. Also, as a guy and someone who isn't of Chinese descent, I can only have a partial understanding of why there are Chinese (American) women who cherish and extol the film/novel, sometimes to the point of tears.

Anyway, when I was a college student, I developed a minor interest in Asian American Studies and heard something about the importance of voice. Throughout history, there have been those who were denied "permission" or "approval" to tell people their perspective of events that profoundly effected them. If they talked, people disliked the idea of listening to them. For example, if you were a white American living in the old American South, would you be willing to listen to an African American talk about the horrors of slavery and the disenfranchisement of the Jim Crow Laws and then agree white people committed a continual series of wrongs? Would you be willing to listen to the Filipino perspective of the Philippine-American War where Americans proved to be savage barbarians who killed a great deal of innocent civilians? I think we can all agree when a woman decides what's best for herself, that doesn't and won't mean this decision is also what's best for a man, and when a man decides what's best for himself, that doesn't and won't mean this decision is also what's best for a woman. That's often a fact of life for better or worse.

I'm just trying to say it's true a lot of the unfairness women had to deal with throughout the history of homo sapiens resulted from disrespect and maltreatment from men, so it's only natural if a Chinese woman's perspective of Chinese men is one of being rude and insensitive for the heck of it. As a victim, it's only fair this is what a Chinese woman's testimony is.

This is just my two cents.

I know there are those of you here are very sensitive when reading or listening to what Amy Tan fans and Amy Tan haters say against each other, so I hope I don't stir up any flames or uncalled for accusations. Since I don't know everything, I'd be happy to read what you have to say and hope we can enjoy a civil, thoughtful discussion.