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That is one messed up little dude!


No he's not. He discovered porn at the same age as most boys, and he discovered how to get pleasure out of it, like every other boy his age. That doesn't make him "messed up" like Todd said he was.

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And right after he says he's a messed up little dude, Tod said he told Garry it was a normal thing... ha ha. He probably just found Garry to be odd for other reasons -- he wasn't the only one.


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I think Todd meant he was messed up because Gerry thought he was "a pervert or something". Not because he was into porn.

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I'm not sure if this movie has ever been played in college psychology classes or anything, but I thought Tod bonding with Garry was really touching in its own way. Tod ended up being kinda like a big brother he never had.

It was clear he had issues from not having a dad around (and later finding out he was a deadbeat/scum who abandoned them for his new family). While of course it's normal for every 13 year old boy to beat off... Garry couldn't confide in stuff like that to his mom (remember when she found the pornos and asked him if he had questions about sex? lol) so its not unusual for him to internalize that he was a perv, especially if he didn't yet know that every guy does.

Point being, even just something as small as that, when Tod told him its totally normal, it made him feel much better about himself and he started coming out of his shell. When Tod said he was messed up, he probably just meant all the problems he was having...and not as an insult.

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So you're saying Todd meant he was messed up for thinking his actions were abnormal or deviant? I never thought of it that way. Good insight. Thanks.

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That is all that Todd meant was that Gary was driving himself nuts thinking it was wrong and Todd explained everyone did it and was normal. At that age and that time sex wasn't talked about as much as it is now with the internet.

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Apparently he's going for a world record. Chicken's burning.

LMAO!

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I thought that his problem was more than the porn. I always thought he was depressed about his father and everything else in his life. Porn was an escape.

~For beautiful eyes look for the good in others, for beautiful lips speak only words of kindness~

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