Is Sam Beckett a rapist?

I saw a similar discussion on the Revenge Of The Nerds board when Lewis was pretending to be Stan and went down on Betty.

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Sam has sex exactly 3 times in the entire series; "Catch a Falling Star," "Temptation Eyes," and "Trilogy Time Part 2" There's plenty of other romance in other episodes, lots of kissing, Sam tends to be a push over when it comes to falling in love, but that's it.
"Catch a Falling Star," is a somewhat hazy encounter in it's own right; heavily inferred through Al saying something to the effect that the "earth moved" for Sam, and Sam takes it especially hard when he believes Nicole has been fooling around with the male star of the show they're in (and she's upset when she thinks he's been with the female lead) - but they don't unequivocally say they have sex. They probably did, but it's expressly said. They also arguably did some proverbial tap dancing leading up to it, with Sam telling her he's not the Ray that she knows, and she responds that she's not the same Nicole - and strictly speaking, since their reunion, she's only seen or interacted with him up to that point with him as Sam; so the only impression she has of who he is now, is who Sam was.

In "Temptation Eyes," it's clear cut; the woman is a psychic and sees Sam as Sam, and when she does, that's the start of their relationship.

"Trilogy Time," in general, let alone part 2, is a bit of a cluster-frak. When Sam leaps in, he's in bed with Abigail right off the bat. Added to that, part of his mind is merged with Will's, the person he's leaped into, and has at minimum inherited Will's stutter, if not perhaps Will's feelings for Abigail. Abigail later says that at first, thing between them didn't feel quite right, and suddenly it felt perfect; inferring that she sensed Sam's presence as being the deciding factor. They have sex again later, and Sam says the instant he was with her, all trace of Will was gone. Somewhere between these two instances - if the first was even actually in the midst of anything - was how Sammy-Jo was conceived.
There's a lot of metaphysical nuance that they try to play with; with Sam usually being upfront that he isn't who they think he is. Then there are at least some occasions where there is some part of the person he's leapt into, influencing his state of mind. And in both the case of "Catch a Falling Star," and "Trilogy Time," he's leapt into the person that the other person would be with anyway; so there's a sort of three-way mutual reciprocity, where it becomes as much the person in the waiting room's experience as the other two. Will is believed to be Sammy-Jo's father; what any of them remembers is the least certain thing of all.
What it comes down to though, is whether or not the consent would change with unequivocal knowledge of who he was and what was happening; and that's ambiguous at best in the two instances where they don't outright know everything, but have indirect conversations where both have some type of understanding that he's not who they think he is. With Nicole, the conceit is first, she knew Sam and she also knew Ray; and that it's been so long for either of them, that they're basically strangers meeting anew - a point that Nicole makes, rather than Sam; and by that token the Ray that meets is Sam, and that's who she goes to bed with.
With Abigail, she senses a fundamental change about the man she's with, that is meant to be construed as her knowing on some level that he wasn't Will, and feeling a deeper connection with Sam as a result.

I would have preferred more clear-cut engagements, but more than that, what bothers me about Sam and Abigail, is that Sam had just leapt out from being her father, to leaping forward and becoming her lover; which just seems creepy. His first blush feelings for her, are paternal; and then they become romantic and even sexual. At best I want to believe some element of that is residual from the people he had leapt into.
On top of all of that, is the revelation that one of his earliest leaps resulted in exactly what he had hoped; he and Donna got married. Yet he doesn't remember, Al's following orders and not telling him, and Sam's gets pretty intimate with a lot of women, kind of falling in love with quite a few, and sleeping with three of them; while Donna's waiting for him back home.... and then he never returns home...


"Our families are in there! Our, uh, mothers and... and tiny, tiny babies!"

In most of these he tried to avoid sleeping with the women as much as possible. Such as in season one, when he leaps into someone on their honeymoon. He keeps trying to put the wife off as much as possible.

I think, morally, it would be a baking act between not taking advantage but also not screwing up that person's life too much while he was there. Like if a husband wouldn't sleep with his wife for several days she might get upset, think her husband was fooling around, whatever.

I can't remember the latter seasons that well but I'm watching now and most of the ones I've seen he tries to not do it as much as possible.