to young?


did anyone else thing that they were to young to be in love? I have nothing against this whole love forever thing but when you are 13 tops i dont think you are old enough to understand love, it's a beautiful movie but I think they are just to young, when I was 13 the last thing on my mind was true love, it was more like omg boys have cooties (I'm only 16 now though so I still dont know what love is but yeah) feel free to comment please dont bash it though

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In answer to the question, too young?--Let me recommend to you Love Actually, where young Sam gives the definitive answer to the question of how old one need be to be in love. Happy watching!

"We pray you pardon all where we fell short--/seeing we were your servants to this last." -Kipling

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Wow, at 13 all I could THINK about was true love. I think that depending on what rate you mature (obviously, that rate is slowly for you), you could find love at almost any age.

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haha, me too. I was so "in love" with multiple people when I was 13. They may not have been really in love, but when you're 13 every emotion is heightened.

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No, 13 or 14 isn't too young to be "in love"... granted, at that age, one has no idea what the entire scope of love is, but "in love" is something different... plus, they were "romantics," in my opinion. Not everyone is.

Also, if you remember the scene just after Lauren ran out of the porn flick when they were talking about "what ifs"... there's evidence of the blending of the super high I.Q. and their romantic nature.

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I must say it is utterly insulting that everyone is claiming that it's impossible that a 13 year old could be in love. I am 13 and in love. I think you could fall in love at any age.

And I really don't want any responses back telling me that I'm not actually in love, because I am, and it will last, I'm engaged, yes with a diamond ring. I do intend on marrying him.

-Mallory

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i think they were that "sweet old time" in love.
i think it depends on maturity and they were in a different time period.nowadays the MAJORITY of teens(not all) just talk,think,breth sex,boobs,and making out or atleast they act like thats all they care about with their friends. i think it IS possible to fall in love when your 13 though.

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ok take this, a hundred so years are alot of girls were married with 1 kid when they were 13, they were expected to take care of a house and a husband, so why cant someone be in love now days just because society wants kids to remain kinds for so long that they wont let them develop at natures rate but at societies rate..

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ok take this, a hundred so years are alot of girls were married with 1 kid when they were 13, they were expected to take care of a house and a husband, so why cant someone be in love now days just because society wants kids to remain kinds for so long that they wont let them develop at natures rate but at societies rate..


I see your point about what teens are capable of, but that was an extremely crummy set-up for the 13 year old girl and I definitely wouldn't want to promote motherhood at that young an age, if the girl gets pregnant it's her choice what to do about the pregnancy and so long as she parents without violating the rights of the resulting legal minor should she choose to continue the pregnancy then I see no reason to separate her from said legal minor, but I would absolutely not encourage someone (if capable of becoming pregnant) that age to think of having sex without using birth control as a sensible choice (if they're not capable of becoming pregnant but can make their partner pregnant then they have no business refusing to cooperate with birth control unless they are then willing to not have sex as a result of that, and even then unless they're allergic to all available brands/types of condom, they're a git). I absolutely think a 13 year old can be in love though.

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What a great reply (to another well written post)!

There are rather few posts like this (and I wonder if its content, style and attitude would still be the same if sent in 2016 and not in 2010); it reminded me on a post in another thread where someone said that movie like this couldn't be made today because of modern conservatism and censorship - so maybe posts nowadays also suffer from lack of courage, people simply don't want to expose themselves as openminded, free spirits because the reaction could most likely range from insults to reporting to admins (demanding deleting the post and banning the poster). On our flight to 21st century tolerance has vanished as the lost luggage decades ago.

People today simply don't want to know things that don't fit into the perfection of the world they believe was created for them. Kids falling in love (and, just impossible, having sex) don't fit. So, for the peace of 21st century people minds, nobody talks about it, nobody shows it, therefore it doesn't exist. Well, if some unwanted too early pregnancy happens, it is a natural disaster that couldn't be avoided like an earthquake. When it happens you deal with the consequences but again refuse to deal with the causes because they can't happen - hey, 21st century society said that kids don't fall in love (and certainly don't have sex) because it was said that it's abnormal /illegal /unnatural /immoral /sinful etc. (The only normal thing for kids to is to sit alone in their rooms, watch killing people on TV or kill people in computer games.)

Another thing that 21st century people can't accept is that norms and standards of today haven't always existed. They act as Orwell's 1984 people: history has never existed, things have always been the same as today and the documents showing different are rewritten or destroyed. Just because young people don't marry before 18 in most modern countries people don't believe that just half of century ago girls used to marry at 16, and just a century ago at even earlier age (18 year unmarried girl was an old maid), while two centuries ago legal age limits haven't existed at all. Having that said I also agree with you that it is not a suggestable thing, because being pregnant and having a baby at 13 (what is by today standards a civilization top crime along with suicide terrorist attacks) is biologically too early and dangerous equally as having a baby at 45 (what is by today standard desirable, modern and encouraged, mostly because it is a great bussiness for doctors and pharmaceutical industry - producing a baby for a woman in her late fourties brings a lot of money while nobody earns if girl delivers a baby at 16).

Your post gives hope that there are still people who don't practice widespread sport of burying their heads in the sand. Unfortunatelly modern brainwashing system is so successful that governments in some countries lose elections when they try to implement birth control information and basic sex education in school programs. And mentioning these countries I didn't have USA in mind, but distant countries with different culture and tradition that have been swept away by tsunami of modern globalization political corectness ideas. Whoever you are, and whoever or whatever is you are talking and standing for, I really wish you strength to resist.

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WOW!! You're engaged at 13?! Good for you!! I wish you the best!!

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Sooo someone's got to ask -- how's the engagement three years later?

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let me know when you wake up at 40 wondering who the F you are married to...

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So Mallory--now that it's 8 years later than your original post & you have reached the ripe old age of 21 [have a drink, now?], tell us?? Did you marry that guy or sleep with 27 others since then?? Just curious as to why the very young are also very un-flexible??

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So Mallory.... It's been almost 10 years. Did you marry this fellow? Are you still in love? Were you "too" young? ....... Roger :^)



Rule #1 - Remember... it's a movie & NOT reality.
Rule #2 - If you can't remember #1... Get a life!!

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Thirteen was old enough for Juliet (and Shakespeare).

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You are always too young to know what to do with the rest of your life but never too young to fall in love - and think you do! xxx

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these kids were beyond their years, and olivier was primal.. as goes heideger, as goes love..

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i think its not too young coz i have people in my class that have boyfriends and im only in 5th grade

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you're all really gay

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I think it is pretty unusual for a 12yo or a 13yo to know what "true love" really is, because you generally don't have a concept of "other" very much at that point. Certainly you know passion, but that's not love. Love entails a measure of sacrifice and willingness to surrender to the pairing things that most adults have a hard time doing, much less someone as little integrated as a pair of barely pubescent kids.

HOWEVER. The two children depicted in this picture can hardly be qualified as "ordinary". I mean, he's clearly a genius, and very self-sufficient, and her character is reading things like Kierkegaard. That shows a level of mental understanding and development that is probably going to balance out their youth and inexperience somewhat (smarts isn't the same as wisdom, so one can have one without the other). Their behavior shows them to be mature beyond their years -- She is disgusted with her mother's juvenile behavior with the Director, and he recognizes his father's immaturity, too.

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Ever heard of "puppy love"????? That's what this was all about.

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The two children depicted in this picture can hardly be qualified as "ordinary".


Movies usually are about persons that are less ordinary or something less ordinary happens to them, otherwise they (usually) wouldn't be interesting to the audience.

However, in real life people are also different and it is not easy to say what is ordinary - mostly it is something that average people decide, and being average themselves they can't understand anything different from their standards. Though this is nothing new for human race, due to mass communitation media this concept of advisable (and, as time goes by, even obligatory) ordinariness became so wide spread that mediocracy became a dominant (and, again, very advisable) characteristic of modern times.

And, contary to general and politically correct opinion, every person is different. There is no way that anybody can fit into any general mould or drawer. Though I understand that some things have to be determined by certain age limits, strict legal numbers often lead to unjustice and discrimination. Many young people drive safely at 18 (and 16 in certain states) and we can believe that some of them would do it at 14 as well, and some drive risky and kill people at 20, 25 or 40 and more. But we don't check them when they cross legal age just because law says they are legally free to drive (until, too lately, proven otherwise). The age for voting disables open minded, well educated and intelectually early mature young people from voting, but enables or even in some countries forces to vote those that don't care, don't know anything about politics, and even emphasizes the voting right for mentally ill and handicapped (including by voting in mental institutions, or home voting for those who live at their caretaker's homes), because their opinion will obviously benefit the prosperity of nation and country, unlike those bright kids...

There is the age limit for marriage and it has been rapidly increasing during last hundred years - not opposing it I still think that, as other limits, these should be considered more as a suggestion and not an absolute law with criminal repercussions: would someone prove me that these laws made marriages more successful, and that the more we oblige them the percentage of divorces decreases?

So, as everything else modern society tries to decide who is (and usually using age as only criteria) able or allowed to fall in love. Or read a book. Or go alone for holiday. Or watch a movie. Or need a baby-sitter. Or take part in sport championships, or song contests etc. Well, being old enough to meet and watch people for many decades, I can say that many of them should never be allowed to drive a car, or watch some movies, let alone marry or vote. In fact, I'd say that some of them should have never been allowed to leave their mother's womb...

By saying all this I know that I exposed myself to those who see this world as almost perfect, and if they were allowed to add their contribution it would be perfect with no deviation from oridinariness and mediocracy. Now I expect their rage and lynch invitations (as a guest of honor). Well, I can just tell them that I've personally been more mature in my childhood and adolescence then I am now. Because even if Internet had already been invented I would never allow myself to waste my time on Facebook or forums like this as I'm doing now...

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"when I was 13 the last thing on my mind was true love, it was more like omg boys have cooties"

Haha seriously??
COOTIES?!
Me and every other kid I know was liking boys or girls since like 12 years old
Trust me its normal
YOU were a bit behind

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When I was 13, I was head over heels for Marie Osmond. Okay, what can I say? I liked older women.

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