Kris loved Alice, not necessarily Tommy
Tommy came along with the package like all cases like these. And Alice's husband did not abuse her, but was distant
shareTommy came along with the package like all cases like these.
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It's been a while since I last viewed this film. I don't think it is fair to ask for each partner to love the others children, if they come part of the package. If a strong relationship is formed between couples and other children are part of the mix, I would say that a concerted effort be made, in an attempt to form some understanding of what is going on. Most parents with children from past relationships who end up in another, are likely not thinking of their children anyway......only themselves for security or to be pampered because of neediness and self entitlement.
I liked how Alice berated David for attempting to spank her son—even if he was a brat—and questioned the kind of man he was. She leaves him in the end, or is unsure if she wants to follow the relationship through, if I remember correctly.
It's implied that she stays with him in Phoenix for the time being, and Monterey is questionable.
But ,yes, there is this expectation for the stepparent/child to bond or love each other. If anything, that should not be the expectation, but luck.
Look at this from this perspective: if you were the biological father(or mother), would you honestly want your child adapting to their new parent so easily? I would too be sensitive about it hope my son would be also.(though I know what it's like to have experienced it as a child)Some people would feel more affected by it about their pet, than own child.
if you were the biological father(or mother), would you honestly want your child adapting to their new parent so easily?
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I can't really comment about this experience, as my parents have always been together and I don't have children. I understand what you are conveying though. It must be a very awkward, tricky and complex situation to be in, for both the adults and children. If you are not going to like each other, what can you do, apart from having to put up with it and then that could only create more tension and animosity.
Nothing wrong with remarrying, but it's the expectation, and non-awareness, that I object to.
IN my case, it was a 3-whammy:
Going from a caring father to an alcholic abusive stepfather>> then my biological father remarried an evil woman who brainwhashed him to disregard my sister and I(as she harrassed us) It worked. It doesn't exactly give you great self- worth.
Also, if there is a conflict, why not compromise so you can marry that person you cannot live without, and let the ex-spouse have custody? That would too self-less; it's all about: "me,me.me"
Nothing wrong with remarrying, but it's the expectation, and non-awareness, that I object to.
It doesn't exactly give you great self- worth.
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I am going to be cynical here:
Marriage: a failed institution. An ancient nomadic concept, who's primary motive is for heterosexual beings, to breed offspring for servitude and over-populate the earth. All it has brought about is suffering, misery and damage to the planet. My parents pride themselves on their marriage, yet can't see the forest for the trees at times and while well meaning, were so self-absorbed in their own $h!t, took the wind out of the sails of my older sister and me, (confidence) and almost drove me into deep depression and suicide, in my later teens and early twenties. They can still operate from the same base level, at times.
I think the low self-worth, comes from many women\mothers, who end up with these idiot, selfish pampered, boring men who want to still be mothered and the women can't see beyond there own self absorbed entitlements and own neediness. These insecurities get projected onto their children. I understand that life is a process and journey and mistakes get made; but the lack of awareness and damage that they are capable of doing, is staggering. Parents can deeply wound their children, yet the paradox is, they likely had the same thing done to them and continue on with the cycle.
In your case SMS, sad to hear about your experience; but if your father genuinely loved you and your sister, why would he let an evil witch turn him against you both? Does\did he not have a mind of his own? I am not expecting or asking you too answer this, just a thought.
'Marriage: a failed institution. An ancient nomadic concept, who's primary motive is for heterosexual beings, to breed offspring for servitude and over-populate the earth.'
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well, the idea is for the individual to decide if they are genuinely happier and more fulfilled in the long run being married. I don't think it's an obsolete institution, but only for certain people. I'm a child of the 60-70s; young enough to know liberation, yet unable to discard tradition completely.
'but if your father genuinely loved you and your sister, why would he let an evil witch turn him against you both? Does\did he not have a mind of his own?'
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...because my mother wouldn't marry a man who did have a mind of his own. You came full-circle