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"Love means never having to say you're sorry" - agree or disagree?


"Love means never having to say you're sorry" - agree or disagree? I disagree. It sounds like one of those things that makes sense on the surface, but when you analyze it, it falls apart. I think the opposite is true - when you CAN say sorry, and always truly mean it.

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I think what it really means is that if you really love someone then you will do all you can to not hurt that person and will not have to feel and be sorry for it later on.

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IRL, as my 20th Century Eastern European Drama Comparative Lit professor said,
Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry.

Makes sense to me, now that I've lived many post-college years.

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Exactly.

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Yeah, but with an Eastern European education, which is a joke.

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Did you happen to see "What's Up, Doc" with Ryan O'Neal and Barbra Streisand? A funny film. At the very end, Streisand's goofball character says "Love means never having to say your sorry" to O'Neal's straightlaced\scientist. He responds "That's the silliest thing I've ever heard".

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Actually, he says "That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard".

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Disagree. It's stupid.

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Agreed 100%

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Agree, it's stupid. It's as OP said, one of those things that sounds profound on the surface but the second it's really considered, it becomes obviously ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with saying sorry.

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Disagree 100% with that line. Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry because if you really mess up, you're going to want to do everything possible to preserve your relationship with the one you love, even if it means swallowing your pride.

A great example is The Honeymooners. A running joke on that series is Ralph Kramden doing something so infuriatingly stupid that Alice stops talking to him, forcing him to grovel for her forgiveness even though it's so painful that he can barely talk as he's apologizing.

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It's nonsense, of course.

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One of the most nonsensical movie lines ever. To write this one would imagine Erich Segal had never even known another human being.

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Best-selling novel, yes, but the script came first - the book was hastily scribbled based on the screenplay before the movie went into production. And it's a silly line wherever it first cropped up!

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I did not know that. Thank you for correcting me. I was an undergraduate English major at the time. All my research told me that Eric Siegel, a professor at Harvard, wrote the book and then wrote the script when Hollywood optioned it. The story is crap either way. “What do you say about a 20 year-old girl who died”!? How about, “She’s dead. ‘Less you’re a necrophile, time to move on.”‘I know perfectly well that an author wants to make the first line of every story a “grabber.” That’s what they teach us to do, and it makes sense; but wouldn’t “I started to cry as I was fucking her corpse” been more of a “grabber”?

I apologize for having been flippant with you before. Please forgive me.

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Because when you are in an intimate, loving relationship you can express regret through a glance, a gesture, a penitent smile. True lovers can communicate without words.

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It's absolute rubbish. It sounds like one of those banalities that gets printed on a poster with a seagull for awkward girls to tape up on the wall in their sad dormitory rooms.

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