Well, like you said: nowadays it's more common to only go by one's first name at meetings, maybe with the first initial of one's last name. The anonymity of AA is not intended to mean anonymity amongst members, but in print, radio, film, and now social media. It was described to me like this: if you have to visit an AA friend in the hospital, how would you ever find him without knowing his whole name?
I've met many old timers (members with many, many decades of sobriety) who freely use their full names in meetings. Ultimately, it's a matter of preference. My first sponsor was from a long line of old fashioned AA, so much of my approach to the steps and living sober is informed by what I learned from him (I was something like 10-11 sponsorship generations removed from Bill Wilson, which I still think was pretty cool).
In the end, if I'm not outing someone else as an AA member, I'm free to handle my own anonymity as I see fit.
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