a version where Mary Hatch was the main character I mean she got everything she wanted we know she didn't really want to go on the big Honeymoon George had planned. not really but she would of tried to have fun and maybe she would of been happy seeing George so happy getting something he frivolously wanted?
shareWhy do you think she didn't want to go on the big honeymoon?
shareshe was happy there she never went to the the big cities with Sam Wainwright when they dated
shareA good small-town girl from that era wouldn't be taking overnight trips to the city with a man unless she was married to him. And speaking of marriage, an idealized wife of that era would never go around saying she wanted to travel when money was tight, wives of that era were financially dependent and weren't supposed to nag their husbands about wanting things he couldn't afford to give her. No, the ideal wife of that era was supposed to help make her husband's and children's dreams come true, and not waste time dreaming about anything that didn't involve her house and family!
And Mary in this movie is definitely an idealized wife of the era, not a real person.
That's your fantasy. There's isn't enough content in the movie exploring Mary's character to support your contention. Was she portrayed as a supportive, loving wife? Yes. Is that "idealized"? Hardly. For every supportive, loving wife, there is a supportive, loving husband ... often in the same household. And you find both all around you, in any era.
In fact, your description of the character as, essentially, a submissive wife is completely refuted by her earlier scenes, which portray her as vivacious and aggressive.
She willingly gave up her honeymoon not because of someone's perverse notion of mid-20th Century sexual politics, but because the ENTIRE MOVIE is about the good people spread through self-sacrifice.