Married? Kids?

No kids... Not married. Always dating. ;)


"We live in a primitive time... Neither savage nor wise." -Hannibal Lecter

What's wrong with the guy? He's in his 40s, time to settle down.

He is living the life of Richard Castle before Beckett :)

Probably nothing. Some people love the Bachelor or Bachelorette life. Think about it:

1. Far less headaches, only responsible for personal needs
2. A wider budget - save a lot of money if you're not spending for anything but bare necessities
3. No schedule to keep outside of work, no one to answer to - play by your own rules and your goals; eat what you want, when you want, and
4. Absolutely nothing to tie you down

I know it's very unusual, not the first time I heard someone say to me or about others who live like this, but hell I'm 28, single, never dated, only went to a some friends' parties either in school or college, just went to a brief reunion this last Fall. As a young fellow who spent his life finding ways to invigorate self, it's very easy to maintain this lifestyle daily if you do it long enough.

Sure sometimes I wake in the morning with a lack of ambition, but it's so rare because I generally know the day before what I want to and whether it'll be satisfactory enough to do that, so I know I reached my goals one day to the next.

I find Couchtuner, Racing, Statistics, and Sudokus to occupy time and when those don't work, there's always a movie now and then I never seen or I like, so much I'd watch it more. I just got digital this year on my cable and it comes with card games, so I break out the Black Jack and play for points, just for some record to beat few hours a week, not that it means anything. In a few years, I'll buy some design software which I do my career on my own time, maybe invent something.

I don't see this changing in me anytime soon. That's my "loner" life in a nutshell.

Leonardo DiCaprio is also in his 40s now. Do you think there's something wrong with Leo?

Sure sometimes I wake in the morning with a lack of ambition, but it's so rare because I generally know the day before what I want to and whether it'll be satisfactory enough to do that, so I know I reached my goals one day to the next.

I find Couchtuner, Racing, Statistics, and Sudokus to occupy time and when those don't work, there's always a movie now and then I never seen or I like, so much I'd watch it more. I just got digital this year on my cable and it comes with card games, so I break out the Black Jack and play for points, just for some record to beat few hours a week, not that it means anything. In a few years, I'll buy some design software which I do my career on my own time, maybe invent something.

I don't see this changing in me anytime soon. That's my "loner" life in a nutshell.

"Forever alone" it's not as great and fun as it sounds. I am older than you almost 30 years and in the past I lived like you (practically).
I'm lonely, I can't tie up with someone on a permanent basis - too high expectations, lack of willingness to adjust to each other, the old habits......
I'd like to have someone close, lover, someone with someone I can talk in the evening or in the morning. It's not just about sex but about closeness.
I look at the older of pairs of people aged 75+ and begin to envy them. At the age of 29 I missed the only one opportunity I know that it already don't come back.
In this respect, I feel sorry for Nathan that he will one day stay alone - you can be alone among friends

/from new girl with limited language skills /

One of my dearest friends didn't marry till he was 53, and his new bride was 41. He had been out taking his morning run and met this woman who was getting her morning coffee during her morning bike ride. She was new in town and got turned around trying to find the coffee place, he is a neighborly gentleman and gave her directions. They kept running into each other (only 1 coffee place in town, only a couple places to get groceries, etc.) and she asked him out one time when they bumped into each other. She had been married before, was divorced, and had a 21 year old son, but my friend had never been serious enough about a relationship before to even entertain thoughts of marriage or living with someone. Then I got a call one evening, saying he had popped the question.

It isn't the most commin thing in the world, however it does happen where people meet/court/marry in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Sometimes, especially if you aren't interested in having children, it isn't so bad to not marry until you've got some grey in your hair. And no marriage is without problems born of trying to get two adults to become a unit. Even 25 year olds have habits, opinions, and such that will make problems in a marriage. So maybe Mr.Fillion is just one of those people who won't find or be close enough to a partner, till he's 49-58. And it is very possible to live to 'ripe old age' without regretting that you did not have children. So with good friends, work he is proud of, a woman by his side, and still enjoying his life when he's 90, he may feel like he lived an incredible life and lived to the hilt.