Or verbal sparring/abuse. She has called 911 7 times in the past few months due to incidents in the house(they are estranged)
But to be realistic: a man 20 yrs younger gets ..restless
The marriage is over, but she refuses to leave the house for medical care, as does he.
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shareFrom the various articles I've read, he wants to stay in the home and have her placed in a care facility which she is adamantly against. He has also suggested getting live-in caregivers as they can well afford it but she doesn't want strangers living in her home which is understandable.
shareEither get a caregiver or get her butt to a nursing home. She sounds rather self centered. Sometimes older people only care about their own needs and never realize the impact they are having on others.
shareEither get a caregiver or get her butt to a nursing home. She sounds rather self centered. Sometimes older people only care about their own needs and never realize the impact they are having on others.
Fear, I guess. Professional caregivers and nursing homes signal "it's almost over."
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You're right about the elderly sometimes not realizing the impact they have on others. But at the same time you have to remember that the elderly are holding on to their independence, fighting to stay alive another day as we all are. We may eat at McDonald's or Taco Bell but five hundred years ago we had to hunt for our own food. I understand Miss Moore perfectly.
shareIt is HER money and HER home and if she prefers not to have a caregiver, that is HER right. Self centered? Seriously? She worked all her life and has the right to live the way she chooses. As an aside, I think your remarks about older people is beyond appalling. Seems to me, you feel anyone of a certain age should be tossed aside without any respect or regard.
Her HUSBAND should get out of the home if he can't deal.
Oh, and wonder if your attitude on this subject will change when you reach her age.
I agree, but she has dementia is rarely lucid. At that point someone has to step in and oversee her care. She is still in her home and has caregivers, so they must have come to some arrangement before her condition worsened.
shareAlthough it's not necessarily a huge character flaw on Mary's part. A lot of the elderly want to ignore what's happening to them, the effect it's having on others, and where this is going to lead ultimately.
Mary apparently didn't want a nurse living with them nor did she want to go to a high-end care facility. Which only leaves hubby to do everything -- and while that's neither fair nor realistic, a lot of older people lose their objectivity about these things.
They just want it to go back to how it was.
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