Are you good at keeping secrets?
Including really, really juicy ones?
What about secrets that reveal potential danger of some kind?
Or secrets that could benefit you in some way if you told them?
Are there times it's okay to betray confidence?
My observation is that even some of the most steadfast people of the highest moral character cannot contain a juicy secret.
Thoughts?
I know the way to San Jose and haven't told anyone yet.
I also know who put the bop in the bop-she-bop and haven't told anyone that either.
So yeah, I'm pretty damn good at keep secrets.
Well gosh, I wasn't thinking anything that big. Just smaller stuff like extramarital affairs, terminal health conditions, misconduct at work... I think you've made this thread a little too heavy.
shareI'm keeping a secret there too. I've got a really nasty neighbor that I've been having problems with. She cheats on her boyfriend big time. He knows about one time, I know a lot more. I had a nice chat with him recently and I've been so tempted at times to clue him in.
shareThis thread ain't heavy, he's just my brother.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIKHTVJAuo8
If you hadn't revealed yourself to be a robot I would think you were my brother or cousin or imp clone. Imp clone is not a real term by the way. I just made it up. Thank goodness nobody else can see this. It will be our secret.
shareImp clone isn't real by fartbottom is a real type of rock formation.
shareI would like to think that I am very good at keeping counsel.
shareI try to be very good at keeping secrets. I think one thing people need to ask themselves in general is, would sharing this only hurt someone or help them? Am I sharing this for my own gain or because it's the right thing to do? It can be complicated.
shareMy job involves client confidentiality, so it’s second nature for me.
shareYes, yes, we know, you steal priceless art for famous people.
I’m really not at liberty to say 🤫
shareMine did as well. I consider myself a good secret keeper but I have had people who I consider to be very good friends who did not always keep my secrets. I think sadly that it is human nature to want to share the juicy stuff. 😏😔
shareI never reveal anything that might leave me in a vulnerable position anymore; I learned the hard way.
shareSame here! You've got to do things to protect yourself. When I started getting red flags about this guy this morning, I also started saving e-mails and that's what he's so nervous about right now, because that's documentation, it's evidence. Judges love that stuff. It's what helped me to win a court case once.
shareYes, I am. I was in a situation just this morning where I was keeping a secret. Had to correct a guy on a lie in front of someone else but I was also keeping something secret. I could tell he was nervous, hoping I wouldn't spill the beans. But that entire situation is on him. It's starting to escalate and it's going to come back to bite him in the ass in the future.
shareIt can feel very heavy when you're keeping a secret. It's hard when you know something that could hurt someone else.
shareAnd it can put you into very stressful situations. I once knew a secret about a guy with some authority in a company where I worked. Motivated by paranoia I think, he launched a smear campaign against me as a preemptive move to discredit me. I actually only revealed that secret to one other person in private and it was because it was then that I discovered what had been going on.
shareYes 1000000000%
Whatever we talk (in private) about stays between us.
IOW, even if it isn't a secret, one still never discusses the content of any private conversation I've had with anybody.
I think being able to keep information confidential even when it would be so much fun to tell somebody else is the sign of a rare person and a true friend. It is something I value.
shareI used to enjoy this game show when I was young. https://moviechat.org/tt0044270/Ive-Got-a-Secret It often involved celebrities and the secrets were always fun and interesting, never damaging to anyone
shareI've never seen that show but if it's something fun that gets revealed I could see that being very entertaining. There are the fun secrets and then there are the damaging secrets.
shareYeah, you know, some people are genuinely humble and like to do charitable things anonymously, that sort of thing.
shareYeah and there are also the secrets that are just stuff you're embarrassed about and don't want people to know because you're afraid they might laugh at you. Like I want to learn how to play the bass guitar but I don't tell most people in my life because I'm afraid they would laugh at me. Nothing deep or life changing but just something I don't reveal much. Although I know I have mentioned it on this message board before. 😁
shareYes, I am. The exception of all what you have mentioned would be "secrets that reveal some potential danger of some kind".
shareYes I think there are sometimes exceptions if it's something that could cause danger if you keep it to yourself. I don't think it's really fair for someone to confide something like that in someone else and expect them to then keep it a secret. That could actually border on selfishness.
Again, we live in a complicated world.