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stories of sociopaths you've met?

posted 4 years ago by filmgeek99 (656)
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Here's one:

The other day, I made this new "friend" from work that personally set me off within 10 minutes of hanging out with him. Granted, I probably should've known from seeing his Facebook profile that he wasn't the most humble of people out there (dude's got a picture of him walking out of a private plane while buttoning up his suit like he's Jordan Belfort or something) but my God, he hit at least 10 red flags upon my first time just hanging out with him.

For starters, he was very polite, but in a very fake, sociopathic kinda way. He tries so hard the whole time to act cool and charismatic around everyone he encounters, and it all just comes off so much like a performance. Everything he says sounded as though it has been written and rehearsed the day before we met, as though these are the lines he thinks are what James Bond or Tyler Durden would say if they had just started hanging out with me.

Next, after I asked him what else he likes to do aside from work, he says that he likes to study economics. Naturally, I asked which college he was in, but then he told me that he was actually doing one of those Masterclass seminars "taught" by a famous person, and that he didn't have to pay because he knew a guy who was well-versed in hacking so he got in for free. Do I even have to explain why this is something to be wary of?

Later, the conversation drifted to being more about me. He asks me what I did before I started working in the same place as he, to which I admitted that I went through a phase of living off my parents for a while as a result of a severe bout of depression I went through where I was unemployed and not in school. To my surprise, the first thing he says in response is "Why, if you don't mind me asking?" Now keep in mind, this is our first time hanging out, so I'm already being pretty open with him by admitting that I was a NEET not too long ago, but to ask someone what put them through such a severe bout of depression on the first time we hang out is just rude. Most people's reactions would just be a simple "I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you feel better now" or something along those lines (that's all I expected, really), but the fact that this guy already wants to know what personal scars I have deep down, shows to me that he probably has a manipulative side to him. So I politely refused to answer.

After the two of us grabbed dinner together, we started heading to a pub. Along the way, he randomly brings up the fact that his dad is a millionaire as we were talking about different career paths the two of us were aiming towards in life. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people who just dislikes anyone who's got more money than me, but I find people who enjoy casually bringing up their wealth in everyday conversation to be super fucking obnoxious and vain. Had if I known him a little longer, I'd probably be okay with this as I know he's not trying to brag or show off but rather, is just being honest about his family background but as is, I just find this utterly obnoxious and despicable.

Then, once we arrived at the pub, we started playing the abundance of arcade machines the place had to offer. The first game we decided to play together was House of the Dead 2, to which he almost instantly prompted us to leave right after I died after he did in the game, no joke. Anyone else see a pattern with this guy?

So yeah, after that, I'm most certainly not hanging out with this "friend" ever again. I just see way too many signs of a narcissist and a sociopath in this guy.

Any thoughts on this person from what I described here? Anyone ever met any similar people before?

[–] kukuxu (5409) 4 years ago

That doesn't sound like a sociopath or a narcissist. That sounds more like a guy with very low social skills.

[–] filmgeek99 (656) 4 years ago

Perhaps, but I'll never know for certain as I ain't planning to see him again. However, I did forget to mention the fact that as we were heading home from the pub, we got into a conversation about women and which types of girls are ones worth devoting significant time and energy to. As we're talking about this, I mentioned how I think women who offer their guys sex if they get a nice, big job promotion, are probably cheap ass hoes that ain't worth your time. But for whatever reason, he disagrees. To me, that's another sign that he's likely very narcissistic deep down, as he probably thinks he doesn't have to worry about that as he can get any woman he wants to sleep with him based on wealth and social status alone. Also, as you probably pictured while reading this, he was dressing very flash and bling that night.

[–] kukuxu (5409) 4 years ago

I don't think that's a narcissistic behavior. In general, sociopaths and narcissists are extremely charming people. They'll say whatever is more likely to obtain a high social status, and they know what to say and how to say it. Obama, for example, he's a textbook narcissist, and you won't find more charming than him.

Again, this guy's behavior sounds more like a guy with very low social skills: it seems like he wanted to prove he was assertive and had his own opinion, but he chose the worst topic to do that.

The 'my dad is a millionaire' and the flashy and blingy thing look like he's desperate to impress, probably since he's used to be rejected because of his low social skills.

That said, this guy seems quite the annoying type. I had a couple of friends that had low social skills, but not like this. They were boring, but they were genuinely nice people. That doesn't seem to be the case here.

[–] Kowalski (75537) 4 years ago

I CANT MEET MYSELF...ASK OTHERS.

[–] davodikum (6197) 4 years ago

I know you are but what am I ?

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Ah, young love is always a rollercoaster.

I’m sure your next date will be magical.

Seriously though, you have to ask why go out to dinner and drinks with someone you just met and who annoyed you so fiercely from all the red flags you spotted in your first meeting? Also, no offence, but it’s a little odd that you would Facebook stalk him BEFORE even talking to him.

This story sounds a bit tall.

[–] kukuxu (5409) 4 years ago

Checking somebody's facebook page when you're gonna date that person is not stalking. C'mon!

[–] filmgeek99 (656) 4 years ago

You don't do a lot of reading in your spare time, do you? 'Cause you don't seem to be very good at comprehending text that runs longer than a three sentence Twitter post.

And no, checking up someone's Facebook profile isn't stalking. Especially when he was the one who sent me a friend request a while back in the first place, and it most certainly wasn't a date as I'm not gay. No offense, but how old are you?

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Touchy.

Let me reassure you that

1. I would never use Twitter. That you mention the idiot’s playground says more about you, frankly.

2. I have no problem with comprehension. You, however, can’t seem to even comprehended when someone is clearly making light of what is quite a smug and judgmental post. “Why, if you don’t mind me asking” seems a perfectly neutral and acceptable response when YOU spill your guts about your depression to someone you supposedly don’t like or trust and who you have only just started hanging out with. Should we be allowed to ask why you would even mention it to someone who has already made you wary with his behaviour? You were under no obligation to be so open with personal information, but this guy is a sociopath because he didn’t respond in what you think is an appropriate way to your blatant over-sharing... I don’t know, man.

3. I would guess I’m a fair bit older than you but I’m not quite sure how that is relevant.

There’s really no need to be so defensive squire. I do apologise if I also didn’t respond in the way you think is acceptable. Maybe I’m just a sociopath like your new mate. Oh well, takes all types 👍

[–] filmgeek99 (656) 4 years ago

Well, I got at least one of those guesses right about you (not into reading, I guess?). : )

[–] [deleted] 4 years ago

Oh touché

That would make a great Twitter post. Get to it, then.

[–] Stratego (30511) 4 years ago

Why, if you don't mind me asking?

[–] captainbucky (15252) 4 years ago

Work friends is really tough in any situation

[–] nyctc7 (43612) 4 years ago

I recommend this book. Well written (for the most part) and quite interesting. It will give you an idea of true sociopaths. Yes, I think I've encountered a sociopath or two. Statistically about 1 in 25 people qualify, so I think it is inevitable to encounter one or two throughout one's life.

https://www.amazon.com/Sociopath-Next-Door-Martha-Stout/dp/0767915828

[–] filmgeek99 (656) 4 years ago

Yeah, perhaps I'm going a bit too far by straight up labelling him a sociopath or a narcissist from that one time I hung out with him. I do get the sense that he at least wants to be that kind of person, though. From the way he was trying to smooth talk every living thing that crossed his path that night, I get the sense that he likes to fancy himself as that type of guy, regardless of whether he actually has the intelligence and social skill to pull that personality off. Even if he's not actually a sociopath deep down, I still think he's probably not the best of people to hang out with if that's the kind of person he seems to aspire to be.

[–] chilone (17875) 4 years ago

I dunno. He sounds harmless and maybe worth getting to know a little better before making a judgement. That said, if you don't feel a click, move on.

[–] davodikum (6197) 4 years ago

Click

[–] chilone (17875) 4 years ago

Not that kink of click, ya silly goose!

[–] davodikum (6197) 4 years ago

Honk!

[–] kukuxu (5409) 4 years ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6_8SlZZwvQ

[–] chilone (17875) 4 years ago

Lol..