Some only feel sexual attraction to people they actually “like”.
If they don’t like you, it doesn’t matter how “sexy” you are.
I think this is a healthy sexuality, especially if it is the same for both parties.
For me it's almost the opposite. I usually feel more sexual attraction towards strangers (in an animalistic way, probably because we don't know each other's personality, so we're left with what we see: our bodies).
But when I'm in a relationship I tend to be more affectionate, caring, and I feel an urge to protect my partner. Of course there's sexuality, but milder.
I think for most people there is that heightened sexual urge when one first falls in love; as if there aren't enough hours in the day.
Nevertheless, I have felt attraction to some I didn't even like and felt none with some people I both liked a lot and thought physically pleasing.
'as if there aren't enough hours in the day' - Well said! I've been there... Waking up before sunrise and making love. Now we just try to sleep as much as we can. :D
I know girls who has terrible personalities but awesome bodies, and I'm definitely attracted to them - but only sexually. I think these two things are totally separable, although some say it's different for males and females.
Not necessarily. I've experienced all different renditions of attraction.
But even for those attractions for men I didn't care for.. I don't think it was just about their bodies but a certain chemistry that existed..
I agree with that.
I have zero interest in women unless I like them and they make me feel good psychologically. It could be anything but there's got to be something I think is admirable. I would want to give them a hug and smile, something that makes me feel that. Also, they must seem trustworthy to me.
I have studied sexual perversion quite a bit since I work in psych.
What's unhealthy about what you're talking about regarding people who just "fuck" is that they are objectifying others. It's like they see someone, and want to fuck. They don't care about the person.
That's kind of like a "fetish". That word means "useless" and implies the person is involved in a meaningless sexual activity. Fred only like "feet" which means he disregards the soul of the person and judges only based on feet. People do that because they are afraid of humans and want to avoid intimacy.
People who "fuck" strike me as the same type of person.
I am scared of them in my personal life. If I hear a woman talking like that it's an immediate turn off. Also, if women use crude language regarding sex, I think it's a sign.
I had this pretty Irish girl tell me, "I like pussy, but I also need dick" and she was interested in me. Another hertero girl I know kept telling me she "needs dick" and she was cute. But, that isn't romantic and sounds like generic objectification of males.
I prefer a romantic girl because there's more to life than sex.
I once had a group of teenage girls walk past me in Los Ángeles and one say “she’s hot i want to fuck her” and I said “hey! Watch your mouth!” And she actually apologised for speaking like that.
TMI! 🤦🏼♀️🙅🏼♀️ Yucky!
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Personality makes a big difference.
Sometimes I find myself physically attracted to a woman despite a strong dislike. Very perplexing. I kind of get mad at myself when that happens.
Always. No sexual attraction to someone I don't consider romantically. Not even a glimmer for someone I don't like at all, no matter how attractive.
I've met countless women who were gorgeous until they spoke.
Isn't amazing how that can happen. One of the salesmen at a place I used to work was so lovely to look at. The first time I saw him, it was like whoa! Hello!
Then he spoke. And he became so very, very unattractive.
I wasn't the only one who thought that.
I couldn't imagine having sex with someone I didn't like.
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