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Is there a time limit that you can spend one on one with your partner?

posted 6 years ago by [deleted]
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Being around the one person all the time can put strain on any relationship. Some couples love the weekend getaway, but a 3 month holiday would be the kiss of death.

Or retirees who divorce. They spent their adult lives together as a working couple, but being around their significant other 24/7 is just too much.

So do you know the limits with your partner? Do you say things like 'maybe you should go out with your friends?' etc?

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

Take it from someone who messed this up, spend time apart. My ex and I spent 24/7 together, its not healthy. I'd say two days a week you should be doing things without your partner. I think if I had followed that I wouldn't be single.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

my wife goes out more on the weekends than i do. it does her good to hang out with her girlfriends.

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

Its a fine line, hopefully you have it right and don't just think you have it right.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

she also goes on vacation with her sister every winter. we are not the clingy type.

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

You seem defensive, thats not a good sign. Marriage is like an egg its so fragile.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

we've been together 30 years. we don't have to spend every breathing moment together.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

I think he sounds perfectly normal. He admits that his wife spends time on her own and he seems fine with it.

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

Well I was married in 1992 so you have me beat. Anyway now my husband has an apartment and we spend two days a week together. Best marriage ever. I'm actually happier now, who would have thought.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

Is it an 'open marriage'?

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

no its a marriage for 25 years where we see each other two days a week and have dinner and sex. I'm pretty happy.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

That is SO AWESOME!!!!! I'm jealous.

[–] tcrum (31863) 6 years ago

you shouldn't be jealous the sex is ho hum.

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

does that mean bad or mediocre?

[–] [deleted] 6 years ago

some guys would die for a relationship like that.

[–] Padeen (6459) 6 years ago

Why bother getting married if you only spend two days a week together? Wouldn't it make more sense just to have separate bedrooms? I'm not judging, I've just never heard of a married couple living apart unless they are separated.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 6 years ago

I get a kick out of my girl, she's possibly smarter than I am and has a wicked sense of humor
She's pretty too and sweet
Can't get enough of her really

Most years I go away for a deer hunt or a fishing weekend with my buddies...I wind up missing my Lady by Saturday afternoon...If you told me that would ever be the case 20 years ago I would have chugged my beer THEN yours!
And I sure don't mention this at deer camp, I'd get a well deserved beating LOL!

Hard to explain as I usually prefer to be alone but some people are just drawn to each other
I probably didn't explain that very well but I tried...apologies:/