Assuming he has a well-paying job, helps around the house, and isn't a financial burden to his parents?
And no, the question isn't about me.
Well, it depends if the parents are in need or not. If the parents are healthy and financially secure he should be out on his own making his own way.
shareYes.. Why would anyone NOT wanna have their own place as soon as they are adults?
shareDepends on the circumstances. Prior to post WWII prosperity in the US it was very common for two or more generations to live under one roof. I would suspect as the economy softens for the average person we will see more people under one roof with fewer cars per household. That is unless we want to rewrite the book on monetary policy and uncouple money from wages.
shareYou are correct. During the early 50’s my grandparents owned a huge 2 story house. We, along with 3 other member families, lived under the same roof. The rooms were made into separate little apartments.
shareSeems to be happening everywhere now, The young ones can't get mortgages as easily and stay at home to save for a deposit.
shareassuming he's a 'normal' person (ie not aspergery or on the spectrum, or something like that), i'd say it's only wrong in that i might question whether he's working towards becoming a fully formed, independent person. can this guy feed himself, do his own laundry, run his own life?
i actually knew a guy who lived at home until he married when he was 31. he was way too attached to & reliant upon his parents. he never did laundry, never cooked, didn't make a decision without consulting with his dad. it's a bit funny in retrospect, in that he wasn't a passive person, or insecure, at least not that i could see. he actually had a pretty big streak of arrogance in him. he was definitely a bit of a brat, as well, very petulant if he didn't get his way, very dismissive & contemptuous of people who were different. i stopped talking to him a few years back, cuz his constant pissiness & brattiness just wore me out. he was no fun.
I moved out at 27 and people were giving me strange looks.
Honestly, I don't care even if you're 40. It depends on the situation. I know a guy who is in his early 30's who still lives at home because he suffers from depression and anxiety and it's the only house he's ever lived in. He's concerned that if he moves somewhere he's not familiar with, he'll feel further depressed as he will feel more distant from himself. He says he doesn't even like going over to other people's houses because he feels weird. I don't know the feeling so I can't really judge.
Other people just want to save their money and utilize living at home.
I know some cultures actually prefer their children move out once they are married. Hell, I even know a married couple who live in one of their parent's houses because the house is in the will and it will be passed on to them and plan on living there when it happens.
Just don't be a creep who looks at porn all day, has no job, and gets high all the time. I know people like that at they still feel like they're entitled to everything.
Absolutely it depends on the situation. We try to project one quality onto all people and that just does not work. There are going to be people who will have 10's of thousands of dollars saved by age 20 and there will be those that have nothing saved. Often, the difference is opportunity versus effort.
shareYes. You’re parents deserve some “me time”. Get out!
shareAs long as he contributes to the household by giving his parents some rent money, helps them, I think it's okay. Why doesn't he get his own place if he has a well-paying job????? Did his parents ask him to move in or???
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