Any movies that deal with so-called gay-crushes?

I've heard that you see that a lot in anime/manga. I don't read/watch a lot of that anymore but I've heard people rarely identify as straight up gay, even in yaoi and yuri stories.

As far as movies that have a storyline like this... hard to say, since I've never been on the look out for it, and because a lot of romance movies only show *one* specific relationship, so who's to say whether they're gay or only attracted to one person? Kissing Jessica Stein, My Summer of Love, Show Me Love (on Elin's part), you could choose to interpret these as gay crush situations if you so please.

This only applies to one episode, but it seems like they had a "gay crush" or in House of Cards (US) episode 8. GREAT episode!

As far as do I think it's a real thing? I'm of the mind that sexuality is a scale. Of course, if you do have a singular same-sex attraction, how do you know you;'ll never again have that, with anyone else, in your entire life? That'd be pretty bold of someone to decide that it can't possibly ever happen. It happened once already. I would be inclined to suggest that people who experience singular same-sex attraction are mostly straight, maybe 95, 96 percent. But a few percent is enough to have a gay romance if you meet that special person.

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Thank you for giving your perspective on the matter and for your examples. I haven't seen many of the examples you mentioned, though I have seen *beep* Åmål AKA Show Me Love and I have at times consider that the relationship might have been a singular same sex attraction on Elin's part. I am planning on checking out House of Cards and those films on mentioned on Netflix.

Peace!

Pretty Ugly People had such a situation.

Ah... you've picked a hard kind of movie to find b/c there is a fine line between "i'm straight but only attracted to him/her" and coming out films. Because even if it's the former, unless the main character states that this is a one time thing than it will just appear to be a coming out film.


I saw a 1997 made for tv french film online a few years ago called "L'homme que j'aime/ The Man I Love" where a seemingly straight life guard named Lucard falls for the new pool attendant Martin. Lucard breaks up with his girlfriend Lisa b/c of his new found love but tells her something along the lines that if it wasn't for Martin he'd still be with her.. and that basically he's only all about Martin, but this film still gets grouped into the coming out category, and Lucard's relationship with Martin tends to be seen as Lucard coming out

I just wanted to add , after recently seein "Lost And Delirious" I feel that it qualifies as a film depicting a "singular same-sex attraction. I am reffering to the one between Tori and Pauley. I feel a line of dialouge in the film even describes it as such. Although it could also be seen as someone being just pansexual etc etc.

Peace!

Hmmm.... I always saw it as Tori just being in denial about it, and if Paulie hadn't been so young and susceptible to such feverish, singular attachment, she could have found herself another girlfriend just as good. But you're right there's certainly nothing in the film that proves they were lesbians. It was based on a book, perhaps the book goes more deeply into it.

Another film with a similar singular kind of romance is Heavenly Creatures, you might like that. Oh wait, did I already mention that one? It's been a while since I wrote that first post.

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There's a subplot like that in Cthulhu (2007)
Of course, in Big Eden (2000), Tim DeKay is truly in love with Arye Gross, but he can't bring himself to have physical sex with him, but that may not be what you're describing.
In Floating (1997), Norman Reedus is established as heterosexual, but it is clear to the audience that, once he finds out Chad Lowe is gay, he would be willing to sleep with him, his emotions toward him are so strong. But it doesn't happen, and it's not clear that he'd sleep with any other man.
In The Man of My Life (2006, a French film, a happily married family man, who has a healthy sex life with his wife, suddenly falls in love with a neighbor he meets while they're on summer vacation.
In Little White Lies (2010), another French film, Benoît Magimel, another married man with kids, suddenly tells his close friend François Cluzet that he's in love with him, and Cluzet goes into full gay panic mode for the length of a group vacation. Though Magimel's wife seems to be sexually unsatisfied, it doesn't appear that Magimel has felt desires for any other man, or acted on them, and he doesn't seem to have any real idea that Cluzet would sleep with him.

"The Incredibly True Adventure Of Two Girls In Love" - the character Evie says to her friends that she's not gay, but in love. So if it wasn't for her attraction to Randy, she considers herself straight.